How do you decide what you are going to work on when you go into a session? My therapist always asks me what I want to work on that day, I never have an answer. I hate that question. I don't think in a way that allows me to come up with an answer, its talking, not something I see or touch. She is getting frustrated with me.
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How long have you been in therapy for?
When I first met my therapist nearly 2 years ago she said it was like trying to get blood from a stone. For the 1st couple of sessions I literally sat staring at the floor whilst she tried to prise the most basic information from me.
Therapy can take a lot of getting used to as it's all talking & it's all about yourself. That was a very hard concept to come to terms with.
In all honesty I pretty much winged the 1st few months cos I let her do all the work, then she said it wasn't beneficial to me as I wasn't really doing anything besides shrugging my shoulders or nodding/shaking my head. She helped me a little with what issues I had but at the end of the day I had to decide what stuff was impacting on me as a person today. It wasn't easy & it took me the best part of a year to do it but now we are working through said issues & it is helping albeit slowly. As my psychologist said though, my issues happened over a long period of years so I can't really expect them to be better in a few weeks, it can sometimes take months or years.
Sometimes I thought it would be so much easier to give up but that's why I got into this whole situation in the 1st place.
Hmm I've rambled a bit, but please stick with it & you'll get there, the only other thing my psychologist asked me to consider was the possibilty of a break as I wasn't strong enough to cope & she wasn't sure I'd be able to handle the issues that came out.
Failing all that, you could get a new therapist if you feel you're not getting anywhere with your current one.
All the best xx
When I first met my therapist nearly 2 years ago she said it was like trying to get blood from a stone. For the 1st couple of sessions I literally sat staring at the floor whilst she tried to prise the most basic information from me.
Therapy can take a lot of getting used to as it's all talking & it's all about yourself. That was a very hard concept to come to terms with.
In all honesty I pretty much winged the 1st few months cos I let her do all the work, then she said it wasn't beneficial to me as I wasn't really doing anything besides shrugging my shoulders or nodding/shaking my head. She helped me a little with what issues I had but at the end of the day I had to decide what stuff was impacting on me as a person today. It wasn't easy & it took me the best part of a year to do it but now we are working through said issues & it is helping albeit slowly. As my psychologist said though, my issues happened over a long period of years so I can't really expect them to be better in a few weeks, it can sometimes take months or years.
Sometimes I thought it would be so much easier to give up but that's why I got into this whole situation in the 1st place.
Hmm I've rambled a bit, but please stick with it & you'll get there, the only other thing my psychologist asked me to consider was the possibilty of a break as I wasn't strong enough to cope & she wasn't sure I'd be able to handle the issues that came out.
Failing all that, you could get a new therapist if you feel you're not getting anywhere with your current one.
All the best xx
I have been in therapy this time around for . . . 7 months I think. I usually go every 2-3 weeks although sometimes it has been longer in between. I have been in therapy before as a teenager, but I didn't do much then either. I have a hard time thinking when I have to talk.
I think she may actually be someone who can help me. All the people I have seen before didn't attempt to make me do anything, she does.
I think we found a solution though. I write between sessions, give her to the notebook when I go in and then we proceed from there.
I think she may actually be someone who can help me. All the people I have seen before didn't attempt to make me do anything, she does.
I think we found a solution though. I write between sessions, give her to the notebook when I go in and then we proceed from there.