For the majority of people on here who have gotten to know me via the chat/forum side of things - this is purely how I feel. I feel like I'm a nobody. Why? Here's a few reasons... I give advice to someone - and someone somewhere will find issue with it. I don't have a problem with that - but when there's ignorance or "lack of empathy" banded about, effectively telling me i'm wrong and I shouldn't give advice on certain topics - it makes me feel like I am not wanted, or that not experiencing some things makes it impossible to understand - yet it can be workable. I let off steam - in threads in this sub forum - but find in the last few that i've started anywhere - there's been 2 replies. It's almost like no-one wants to even really consider replying, never mind not being able to. But again - I sense that might be through my approach to the way I give the support I do. Yet people have read it - and I see others have double figures of replies while my threads sit there with none. I help out in chat at times when new members come in. But there are some occasions I feel like I shouldn't bother - particularly if told a certain line. Namely "let us deal with it". From mods who aren't in the rooms all day every day (that's pushing it a bit - even for insomniacs), there's going to be opportunities to offer advice. Hence the chat guide that I put up. I go into chat - to chat. But I type a couple of lines and it goes silent like all are busy elsewhere. Ok - possible over-reaction - but when it does go quiet when I'm in there - it's like I brought it about even when I do nothing. Sometimes i'm not even acknowledged upon entry - but then see others enter afterwards get acknowledged straight away - by people who were mid-conversation when I arrived. I've even been known to sit in TS in a foul mood - not get noticed (and this is without the symbol up) - or even sit in a room by myself - and not get even a PM. I once sat in spare room - no symbol up - for about 2 hours (give or take 10 mins either way) - before anyone else gathered together in one room and said something. Does that make me feel like i'm worth something? I am a nobody to my family. They won't admit it - but my older brothers have no direct communication with me unless they see me. Their partners - well - I couldn't be bothered with wishing one of them a happy birthday on Aug 15th after their performance in front of me the weekend before (the 10th I think) - I got more conversation out of all 3 of her kids than I did out of her that night. My dad has occasional dealings with me - but only if there's a chance meeting in town or a family BBQ that I have to put the effort in to get there. At least there's usually an invite for the BBQ (like the one on the 10th) I am a nobody to people I used to call friends - interaction? what is that again? Oh wait - if I don't put it in - I get nothing but then the excuse "I was busy". Ok - there's been like 6 months or more - my numbers not changed - i'm on your facebook - and you can't even drop me a "hi how are you?" - Those people - are not what i'd call friends. Friendship usually works 2 ways - as do other relationship formats, primarily one persons efforts is ridiculous - and not really fair for a friendship or otherwise. I am a nobody to those I worked with in my last job. Apart from one - who does have the occasional communication with me. But take that out - no-one has again - interacted with me since I no longer work there. Or more since I last was there. So yeah. I feel on top of the world. (Note - sarcasm there for those who didn't register it). I have an opinion that I am a nobody. Sure feels like it. Gimme one good reason why I'm not. But you sure as hell better make it believable.