I am debating whether or not to tell my parents I am suicidal

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by Fell Mor, Sep 15, 2016.

  1. Fell Mor

    Fell Mor Member

    I am sixteen and I don't know how my parents will react to me telling them. The problem is that I am afraid of trusting them, because I might be hurt, but I can't trust them to know whether or not I will be hurt, thereby isolating myself and causing a different kind of pain. I can't trust them to know whether or not I can trust them. Thoughts?
     
  2. Frances M

    Frances M Mountain Woman

    I'm sorry you feel suicidal, is there any reason why your parents wouldn't be trustworthy? Have they shown that to you before? You are afraid of being more hurt by their reactions? I think you do need to talk to somebody for sure though.
     
  3. Dikta

    Dikta Autistic.

    I too am curious, is there a reason for them to not be trustworthy?
    But I think you should or try your school counselor, if you feel you can't trust your parents.

    It's a good thing to reach out and I hope you do, since things will get better.
     
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  4. SillyOldBear

    SillyOldBear Teddy Bear Fanatic Staff Member Safety & Support

    I have dealt with depression, anxiety and suicidal ideation since high school. I never told my parents. They never said anything to me. Once I had a doctor notice that something was amiss. He offered to refer me to a specialist. I did not take him up on the offer. I, too, was afraid what my parents might do. These many years later I continue to regret that. How different my life might have been if I had sought help when I was young. It just might have opened the door to happiness and a fulfilling life. If I had it to do over again, I would have taken the doctor up on his offer even if it meant confiding in my parents. Obviously, I cannot make such a decision for you. I can only share my experience.
     
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  5. Fell Mor

    Fell Mor Member

    Thank you for your responses.
    No, there is no reason for me to fear what they will think, I just don't know how they will react and I don't want them to be disappointed in me.
     
  6. Dikta

    Dikta Autistic.

    I understand your concern.
    Yes, your parents will most likely be sad, surprised and concerned.
    But I'm sure they'll ask you why and such and do everything to help you.

    Again if you fear too much of how they'll react, try your school counselor or doctor first.
    It's a good thing you want to reach out and it'll help you a lot.
     
  7. Dikta

    Dikta Autistic.

    But they won't be disappointed in you.
     
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  8. SillyOldBear

    SillyOldBear Teddy Bear Fanatic Staff Member Safety & Support

    They won't be disappointed if you talk to them. They will be disappointed and hurt if you hurt yourself without giving them a chance to help.
     
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