I Am Tired Of All Of This Crap...

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by Godsdrummer, Jun 5, 2009.

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  1. Godsdrummer

    Godsdrummer Guest


    ....That keeps piling up.

    Well my Dad did it again.

    For those of you who don't know, my Dad was in prison for 5 years. During that time he was beaten by a fellow inmate so badly that he has suffered permanent brain damage.

    Now my parents live out in the country, in a farm house. Starting early this spring, my Dad starting wondering down the country road, unbeknownst to me Mom, stopping cars and asking the occupants for things like, matches, tobacco etc. My Dad is a Cigar/Pipe smoker.

    He had done this like 3 times. We thought we had gotten a hold of this thing, but HE FUCKING DID IT AGAIN YESTERDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    He doesnt understand. You can't talk to him. He has the mental capacity of a toddler.

    So my Mom has decided he has to go into a nursing home. And...because of that, she is worried that once the state has taken my Dad's money to pay for his nursing home care, that they will come after her money too. So she is going to divorce him.

    But wait, that's not all. She isnt going to be able to afford the house she is living in.

    So she wants me to find a rental home for HER AND I to move in.

    Now let me get this straight.

    My dad committed a crime.
    My dad went to prison.
    My dad lost his mind.
    My dad has to go to a nursing home.
    My mom in order to keep some financial security, has to divorce him.


    I'm an alcoholic who's wife left him.
    My wife is divorcing me.
    I have spent the past 9 months trying to get my life back.
    Things have been going relatively better.
    I have started to enjoy my independence.
    I am going to be 43 years old.


    It's not fair. I have worked and come too far. How am I ever going to have a love life again.

    I can just see it now, "hey baby, you wanna come back to my place, I think my Mom is in bed by now?"


    I have no future. I am screwed.

    Of course, I have to do this. I can't turn my back on my own Mother, even if my sister did.

    Damn it all to hell.

    Oh...yeah...this is another one, Hey Mom, would you mind getting off the computer, I want to masturbate to some online porn?

    I will have no life if this happens.
  2. Brighid Moon

    Brighid Moon Member & Antiquities Friend

    Ah crap, that sucks! Is there any way to get your mom some financial help for herself so that you can be free of all of this mess? Not abandoning her, you can still be there for her, but you really need to be your own person. I hear you! I went through hell with my dad (still am!) trying to live with him. I couldn't make it. So now he's in a home and I'm living in my own trailer, away from him, but still here for him (even though he drives me up a wall). I don't know how old your mom is - probably not as old as my dad - but there are programs and stuff to help people who are poverty level (like I am). There has to be something out there to help her, so that you can be free(er)! You don't have to abandon her - but you probably should put your foot down about your independence.
  3. Godsdrummer

    Godsdrummer Guest

    Fucking Dad!
  4. WildCherry

    WildCherry ADMIN

    There's NO WAY you should have to do that. I can understand helping your mom, but you need your space and your freedom too.

    Could you help her find an apartment? Something small, that hopefully wouldn't cost her too much. She might even be able to get some financial help from the state.

    (Edit): I can't remember what they're called, but my grandmother lived in one of those buildings predominantly for older people. The kind where your rent tends to be based on your monthly income, so the rent usually isn't that high. Maybe a place like that would be good for your mom.
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  5. Godsdrummer

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    She has 8 Whippets. She doesnt want to give up her dogs. She knows she has to, but she is holding on to some false hope that she can find a place to rent where they will allow 1 or 2 dogs.

    Most places dont allow pets, and if they do allow dogs they are usually no bigger than a beagle, and certainly not 2 of them.
  6. WildCherry

    WildCherry ADMIN

    EIGHT of them! Damn!

    I've never even heard of a Whippet. I had to look it up on Google to figure out what type of dog it is.

    It's got to be hard for her, having to give up her dogs. But she's making the choice to divorce him and go ahead with her plan. You shouldn't have to give everything up because of it.
  7. Godsdrummer

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    Well like I said, she is divorcing him to protect her finances.

    She says she can pay the rent but I dunno if she realizes how much rent is. Plus the fact that still owes on the house, so if she moves out and it doesnt sell, or....if she forecloses on the property.....I dunno how she would be able to afford the rent.

    the reason I am living in an attic apartment is that is all I can afford. I would shudder to think that moving in with my Mom in some rental house and then she couldnt afford the rent later on.
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