Hi Yati,
I’ve just read some of your other posts…
You know you have so much to live for: You graduated from college; you have a fiance who loves you for who you are and you also love her very much; you have a loving supporting family, you are young… I love the quote you chose for your signature here: “Be the change you want to see in the world.”…
I feel you are a beautiful human being. I really do. I used to find it hard to forgive myself, too. I have finally realized that guilt does no good to anyone. All it did was to make me get lost in the past…feeling bad about myself…ignoring what was actually happening at the present time…then more unsatisfied feelings against myself...then not treating others with presence…like a real bad circle kept on going… The truth is that we can only truly love others when we
unconditionally accept and love ourselves...
When we forgive ourselves, we are more kind and gentle towards others as well. I’m sure your mother would love you to forgive yourself, for yourself, and for her as well, because you can then truly be kind to both your mom and yourself when you truly forgive yourself. Can you imagine how your mom would feel if you hurt yourself instead of forgiving yourself?
Your fiance is strong and she needs to feel her strength. Your allowing her to be the way she is and loving her just the way she is - is probably the most helpful thing she needs from you now. She knows that you are there for her. She may not say it, but you know how much it means to her…
Do not label yourself as “a socially inept person”. Our society itself is quite sick in many ways. A beautiful person like you feeling the way you feel is actually one of the failures of the society… Yes, in a way, you are more sane than many so called “normal” people… I say this from a deep place in my heart… I can almost say that your doctor may be more "sick" in a way. If your doctor is not helpful, maybe you are better off without him?
You said to another member in another thread: “I thought there was something wrong with me for years, but as the years have past wonderful things have happened to me.” It helps that you remember this…
Maybe you will find the book “
The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle helpful (maybe you can read it next week - reading a good book is like talking to a good friend
). (The author Eckhart used to be suicidal but now lives a real peaceful life.) Here is a link to free download of the book in PDF (see page 8 for the story about his suicidal experience):
http://www.holybooks.com/wp-content/uploads/The-Power-Of-Now-EckhartTolle.pdf
Also, here is a video clip:
Your Thoughts Make You Suffer ~ Eckhart Tolle
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_eASmGTd00
Here is another video clip I invite you to watch:
Forgiveness and the Freedom of Letting go
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3D4VMZb8wLY&feature=fvsr
Wish you well!