I am 40 and I swear I have the mentality of a teenager. I care so much about how others perceive my looks that it makes me miserable. How does one learn to accept what they look like? A little over a week ago the man whom I think is my soulmate told me he was going to visit his mother and was going to stop and see me on his way home. Thats a good 4 hours out of his way. I told him absolutely not. I am not happy with the way I look (overweight, not a whale, but not thin either) and I am petrified of rejection. I always have been. I do so want to meet him but I am afraid. I just don't know what to do.