I don't know why I even bother

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Wonderstuff, Sep 27, 2006.

  1. Wonderstuff

    Wonderstuff Staff Alumni

    Sorry, yet another ranting thread from me. Ignore this if you want.

    Yesterday I started uni. I didn't freak out and hide like I was scared I would, but I met a girl whose cousin i used to be friends with. I ended up hanging around with her and another girl during the break between lectures (3 hours). I ended up kind of a third wheel at times. It was pretty awkward for all of us I guess, three's a crowd and all that. And then I missed two buses on the way home (one from Glasgow out...one from the nearby town to here).

    Today I had to go in for the introduction to German. Now, you may remember me complaining about having to stand around for 15 minutes on registration day waiting for a languages lecturer to become free, so I could ask them whether to take the beginning class or the more advanced one. After some deliberation and me explaining the situation (haven't done it for a year...really struggled with it...would feel more comfortable not struggling to keep up with this when I have four other subjects, etc.) the Italian tutor decided, ok, take the beginners class. And if anyone asks why you're doing it when you have a Higher, just explain this to them. So that was ok.

    When I got to the class today, I was like 25 minutes early. So we were all kicking our heels in the hallway until the lecturer and convenor arrived. She started talking about the class and then said "Anyone with a Higher, A-Level or equivalent - leave now. Go to the other class, tomorrow." And so I was thinking, "Crap. Should I leave? But that guy told me to come here..." So I sat there for another five minutes until she came over, passing out enrolment forms, and I asked her. And she said, "If you've got a Higher you shouldn't be here!" and I said, you know, how much I'd struggled and how I failed my prelim and all this. And then she said, "What grade did you get?" And I knew I couldn't lie in case she checked up on it and was mad, so I said, "An A...but nobody could understand how." And then she said, "Well, if you've got an A, I can't accept you into this class." And then just walked off.
    And so I had to walk out.

    And then when I got to the book shop I couldn't find the books I was looking for. Eventually I found one, and the queue was massive. When I got halfway up in the queue I looked over and saw a whole other rack of English books I hadn't noticed before...but I just gave up. I bought the Sociology books and came home.

    The whole time this was going on, I was just trying not to cry. I hate this. I know it's all new and everything, but I missed the first meeting of RAG last night because I didn't know that was on either. And I know it's completely normal to be overwhelmed by uni, but...I just feel so all over the place, and so ready to cry all the time. I was crying just reading a PM this morning. Everyone in the family is expecting me to do well because I'm the first one on my mum's side to even go to uni, and there's just so much going on...and so much in my head...
    When I first got out of the classroom onto the stairwell, I was mad and trying not to cry...but I wasn't mad at the teacher, I was mad at myself. It doesn't even make any sense. I was just so mad and so upset...I wanted to hurt myself so badly. Lately it's gotten so much worse...it's been nearly a year (October 19th) and I can't cut now, I just can't, but I can't handle this :( Anytime I want to cry I can't, and then at the rare times I actually am alone and it would be ok, I can't.
    Everything's just all piling up, and all screwed up, and people are trying to get me to talk to them but I don't want to dump this on them, and so I don't even really know why I'm posting. Maybe because this way it's no one being left to deal with it, people can just ignore it if they want. I wouldn't blame them if they did, all I'm doing at the moment is whinging.
    I just feel so...screwed up.
    Sorry :cry:
     
  2. Sa Palomera

    Sa Palomera Well-Known Member

    talking to people about what's bothering you isn't "dumping it on them" hun! I am here for you, Moonie, and I will be and if you'd talk to me I'd be more than happy to be a listening ear for you. It wouldnt be dumping something on me, sweets!

    I know very well how you're feeling with all these things going on. first day at uni, feeling the 3rd wheel, messing stuff up. I'm there too.. :dry:

    here if you wanna talk about it sweets! :hug:
     
  3. wienerman

    wienerman Guest

    it takes time to fit in, and i only met my best mate at uni in the second year, not because he wasnt there before just i never spoke to him. trust me, this feeling will go away once a calmness has been achieved. at the moment everyone is trying to work out where they fit in, but after a few week you will get into the routine and things will be easier.

    you can talk to me, i have had a bit of experience of going to uni :p

    :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: you are lovely :D
     
  4. Wonderstuff

    Wonderstuff Staff Alumni

    Colorquiz.com says:

    "Your Existing Situation
    The fear of rebuff and the extreme caution of her approach make it difficult for her to achieve the degree of intimacy and identification she desires.

    Your Stress Sources
    The tenacity and strength of will necessary to contend with existing difficulties has become weakened. Feels overtaxed, worn out, and getting nowhere, but continues to stand her ground. She feels this adverse situation as an actual tangible pressure which is intolerable to her and from which she wants to escape, but she feels unable to make the necessary decision.

    Your Restrained Characteristics
    Remains emotionally unattached even when involved in a close relationship.
    Trying to calm down and unwind after a period of over-agitation which has left her listless and devoid of energy. In need of peace and quiet; becomes irritable if this is denied her.
    Very exacting in the standards she applies to her choice of a partner and seeking a rather unrealistic perfection in her sex life.

    Your Desired Objective
    Considers the existing circumstances disagreeable and over-demanding. Refuses to allow anything to influence her point of view.

    Your Actual Problem
    The tensions induced by trying to cope with conditions which are really beyond her capabilities, or reserves of strength, have led to considerable anxiety and a sense of personal (but unadmitted) inadequacy. Her inability to enforce her will causes her to over-react in stubborn defiance and by assigning to others all the blame for her own failures."

    Why does Colorquiz always have me pegged?
     
  5. thedeafmusician

    thedeafmusician Staff Alumni

    Colourquiz always has me pegged too... its damn scary. Sorry I dont have much to say with me not being the best at the moment either, but like Ishtar said, it aint dumping on people if you're telling them your problems. :hug: :hug: :hug:

    TDM