I dont understand

[Cagla]

Can you help me please ? I don't want to misjudged anybody but I doubt some things.. I may be exploited here.
I have been in therapy for like 4 months. She said in the beginning she would try emdr. We just didn't start it for 1 and a half months. We didn't start and then when we started I only took 2 emdr sessions or 3. When we start a session she kind of talked about the week and then started emdr but there would be no time enough for that so next week...anyway I said to her weeks ago that I can go on 2 months more but after that I don't know if I can because I'm not good financially.
And we just did one emdr session after that talk. Today we were supposed to do that but she keeps skipping it. Today we just talked about my week. ........I feel like someone who is coping but have certain problems to figure out. Not as something I should do in a bad mental state. I think she may consider me as someone who just exaggerates ....I guess we won't do more emdr any more... is it normal?

 

[may71]

I'm not sure it's the case with your therapist, but sometimes therapists are more concerned about having a schedule full of paying clients than they are about patient outcomes.

If you're not satisfied with the treatment you're getting, maybe you could try seeing a different therapist.

You might also want to try to getting acupuncture (if you can find an affordable source, I could say more about that). There's evidence that it can help with PTSD.

 

[sinking_ship]

It’s not good that she’s not listening to what you feel you need. If you want emdr maybe you could find another therapist who specializes in that and they would be better to work with.

 

[On loop]

Hi caglas 😊
Confront her politely.. make her aware you are planning on looking into specialists On the treatment as sinking ship says that way you'll find out real quick if she's financially driven or care driven by her response

However I will say that some therapists use sessions "in wait" (meaning promising specialist help) to weigh you to see if you are genuine.. but outright if you think she thinks your exaggerated then seek someone to take you seriously

Peace and I hope this helps 👍
Let us know how you get on

 

[Were all together]

I agree with @On loop.

 

[Cagla]

Hi caglas 😊
Confront her politely.. make her aware you are planning on looking into specialists On the treatment as sinking ship says that way you'll find out real quick if she's financially driven or care driven by her response

However I will say that some therapists use sessions "in wait" (meaning promising specialist help) to weigh you to see if you are genuine.. but outright if you think she thinks your exaggerated then seek someone to take you seriously

Peace and I hope this helps 👍
Let us know how you get on

There aren't any other specialist like her. It's really a small city I live in and the state hospital wouldn't be able to provide that as well...I don't know..I didn't request emdr. She said that but I can't still have it.
I'm so quiet and shy I don't know if I can confront her

 

[Cagla]

I'm not sure it's the case with your therapist, but sometimes therapists are more concerned about having a schedule full of paying clients than they are about patient outcomes.

If you're not satisfied with the treatment you're getting, maybe you could try seeing a different therapist.

You might also want to try to getting acupuncture (if you can find an affordable source, I could say more about that). There's evidence that it can help with PTSD.

I can even hardly found this psychologist in my city there aren't anyone else specialised in that field too...I cannot see her motives maybe I'm so bad...But ...Today we were supposed to have a longer emdr session but it lasted as much as last week's, like 40 mins..... And we were like..kind of two friends chatting :/ is it always this way?

 

[On loop]

There aren't any other specialist like her. It's really a small city I live in and the state hospital wouldn't be able to provide that as well...I don't know..I didn't request emdr. She said that but I can't still have it.
I'm so quiet and shy I don't know if I can confront her

Well that makes it a lil more complicated..
but just to say.. Confrontation...
Can be done in many many ways 😉

If your quiet and reserved then you can confront in a passive manner
You seem like a sweet person so use that to your advantage,

If I could
I'd like to suggest a way for you to do it that's not scary for you and should get you the answers you want....

Ask in a manner of "my friend (Google 🤫) was just telling me that she has had great success using EMDR and I was telling her you (the therapist) and I are just going into the process 😃.. I'm really looking forward to starting/carrying on the process because I would really like to compare notes as we've been going through similar feelings

Then raise your eyebrows hopefully lol

I'd say that would work on any professional

Sorry if I've gone too far but If it might help I thought it was worth giving a plan of attack..

Never fear confronting, there's a way to deal with every person if you put yourself in their shoes first

Peace 😉

 

[Cagla]

Well that makes it a lil more complicated..
but just to say.. Confrontation...
Can be done in many many ways 😉

If your quiet and reserved then you can confront in a passive manner
You seem like a sweet person so use that to your advantage,

If I could
I'd like to suggest a way for you to do it that's not scary for you and should get you the answers you want....

Ask in a manner of "my friend (Google 🤫) was just telling me that she has had great success using EMDR and I was telling her you (the therapist) and I are just going into the process 😃.. I'm really looking forward to starting/carrying on the process because I would really like to compare notes as we've been going through similar feelings

Then raise your eyebrows hopefully lol

I'd say that would work on any professional

Sorry if I've gone too far but If it might help I thought it was worth giving a plan of attack..

Never fear confronting, there's a way to deal with every person if you put yourself in their shoes first

Peace 😉

Wowww it sounded funny lol
Well I doubt I can lie, probably end up messing all this thing up :/ but I will tell her next session that if we do the worst event at least it would help me .
Probably she will counter attack but ahh I really can't lie

 

[On loop]

It's not a lie lol

Google is a research engine no difference to any freind offering advice 😋

Hope it all works out for the best 😊

 

[On loop]

Or I can tell you about EMDR and how it helped lol
then it's not a lie

It's nice to hear there's honest people still tho 😊

 

[Cagla]

Or I can tell you about EMDR and how it helped lol
then it's not a lie

It's nice to hear there's honest people still tho 😊

hmm then it can work this way btw do you remember the story i sent to a magazine without correcting the words accidentally?? i again sent the wrong file, not the corrected one. i am shocked right now..i am even more stupid than i thought....impressive

 

[sinking_ship]

My therapist and I actually do spend a lot of time just talking like friends. It's kind of a problem, haha, because he gets chatty and we have a good rapport, and I am sometimes not bold enough to tell him it's gone on too long or else I'm reticent to actually talk about what I know I should be talking about so I let it happen. Sometimes I do have to just say, ok I need to talk about This. Or sometimes I will write him ahead of time and tell him I need to say something, so he knows to back away and let me lead the conversation.

Your therapist is there to help YOU, so you need to be honest and tell her you think it would be beneficial to prioritize EMDR. You can always practice ahead of time what to say. But she should be receptive to that.

 

[AFlower]

I agree with the others here, your therapist is there for you and is there to help you. Talk to your therapist about it, say that you have had a plan to do emdr and it is important for you, ask her to do it. It is her job to help you but in therapy, as in other things in life it’s a process and both sides are learning. Talking to your therapist maybe will help them understand better what you need from them, and on how to help you. It’s in your therapists interest to help you. I hope it will help and things will get moving

 

[On loop]

hmm then it can work this way btw do you remember the story i sent to a magazine without correcting the words accidentally?? i again sent the wrong file, not the corrected one. i am shocked right now..i am even more stupid than i thought....impressive

Oh don't be daft lol
it was brilliant!! These people don't care about spelling errors and if I could understand it all so will they and im sure they'd appreciate it the same too,, %99 of writers send their stuff in unchecked, so try not to knock yourself
Your defo too hard on yaself lovey

 

[On loop]

hmm then it can work this way btw do you remember the story i sent to a magazine without correcting the words accidentally?? i again sent the wrong file, not the corrected one. i am shocked right now..i am even more stupid than i thought....impressive

Oh don't be daft lol
it was brilliant!! These people don't care about spelling errors and if I could understand it all so will they and im sure they'd appreciate it the same too,, %99 of writers send their stuff in unchecked, so try not to knock yourself
Your definately too hard on yaself

What I took from the errors was that you were passionate about it and they will see that too
Big hug

 

[Cagla]

Oh don't be daft lol
it was brilliant!! These people don't care about spelling errors and if I could understand it all so will they and im sure they'd appreciate it the same too,, %99 of writers send their stuff in unchecked, so try not to knock yourself
Your definately too hard on yaself

What I took from the errors was that you were passionate about it and they will see that too
Big hug

Really ? Thank you, I was a bit up and energetic yesterday then I realised .... there were two files. One, the correct one named INTERVIEWWW, the other one full of typos INTERVIW. And I just sent the last one
My Intuition is more reliable than my intelligence lol, I knew something was wrong, a voice told me not to send. But monkey brain just sent smh :p