I feel like I'll never find true love.

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Untouchable, Oct 26, 2010.

  1. Untouchable

    Untouchable Well-Known Member

    I know I'm still young, (I'm 19), but looking at the world, I feel like I'll never be able to find true love. Someone who really will love me for myself.

    I mean, if you think about it, most of the times, we have to change something or the other about ourselves to be wanted. We always feel the need to make ourselves 'better', even if it means forcing ourselves to change, in order to gain the heart of the one we've set our eyes on. Most of the times, we feel like we're not good enough unless we make some changes on ourselves.

    There's nothing terribly wrong with me. I was always considered an attractive girl, and even though I tend not to believe it I can see it on myself as well. If you get to know me, I'm actually a nice person, and I've always been one. I have never insulted anyone and I'm willing to talk to anyone and not judge them before I even get to know them. I like making conversations, and even though I swing more to the shy side, I can get over it once I meet someone. I have interests, such as music, piano, threatre and singing, so it's not like I have nothing to share and talk about.

    I don't know what guys really want from girls these days. What kind of girls they go after. I'm in college, where you're supposed to find someone much more easily than in hell school (=high school), but it seems even worse to me.

    Whenever I meet a guy or take an interest in someone, they most likely will see me only as a friend. Most of the guys I've liked in the past came to me for advice and wanted to ask one of my friends out. It's like I only exist to help them get to someone else.

    I don't know. Every time this happens, like very recently, I begin to hate myself and wonder what's so wrong with me. I begin wondering what I should change about myself, and if I'll ever be happy in a relationship in my life. And the only guys that have shown an interest in me, is because they just wanted to 'hook up' or I wasn't attracted to them at all.

    Seriously, what's wrong with me? And why does it feel like love's not waiting for me after all? I don't know, but, I really want to find someone who I'm as attracted to as he is to me, and get into a serious and loving relationship, but it seems like too much of a dream at the moment.
     
  2. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    If you have to change yourself to be with someone you probably don't really want to be with them...

    The only thing that's to be done is to wait. Pursue relationships for what they're worth, sex and companionship and such, and don't fret too much about it. You'll find it eventually.
     
  3. dartofabaris

    dartofabaris Well-Known Member

    ...someone who will love you for yourself.
    at first it sounds like asking a lot..we do need to refurbrish or
    fine-tune certain predicates to appear more desirable but i would
    refrain from changing those parts which you hold most dear..better to
    be more comfortable with oneself than be superfically secure with your
    bf..as the saying: the key to your happiness should be kept in your
    own pocket.
    It seems like you are having a frustrating run, dont keeping thinking
    is there something im doing wrong? if you do then you will eventually
    wind up so, thereby fulfilling your own worries. Or perhaps some guys
    out there do really like you for you, but are afraid 'cause as you said:
    'I was always considered an attractive girl'. :)
     
  4. chipped_d

    chipped_d Member

    I know how you feel. I also consider myself relatively attractive, with intelligence and personality - especially back in high school, when I was mostly over my self-esteem issues - but I've never really clicked with anyone. All five of my best friends have significant others - I've always been the third wheel. And I don't mind it, usually, but lately because of college all my friends are far from me, and I feel more alone than ever. I feel so disconnected from reality, from people. College made it so much worse. I don't know what I'm doing any more.

    I want someone to come up to me, meet me, and make me realize that life is worth living. Someone to connect to and help me through the hard times. It's too difficult for me to do this alone.
     
  5. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    oh, I hope you'll find your true love!