Hey,
I can feel the pain coming out of your post. Would it be right to assume that the word you hate has very personal meanings for you? As I know you don't like that word, do you find 'Sexual abuse' any better? I will shorten it to SA for the remainder of the post so thatI am hopefully not offending you, nor anyone else.
The way you write about that word shows that you feel very strongly about it, very possibly because it has happened to you. If it has happened to you, have you ever had any kind of therapy to help you deal with it? SA in any form is harrowing, and if you have had to go through that, and have not had support, is it something you would consider? Dealing with SA in therapy allows you to work through the pain, and to come out the other side, where it does not hurt anymore. Maybe, if what I have guessed is true, then you might feel differently about that word, if your own inner pain and experiences, stopped hurting you. But then, that is totally a guess, and could be totally wrong, so feel free to correct me.
With regards to the word, it does not overly bother me, but then it is not an issue that is personal to me. There are other words that I do not like, mainly because they trigger flashbacks, or memories, or whatever (which is why I guessed what I guessed about you).
I do however, agree that it is used very lightly, often as a joke, but people who have some ignorance around the subject. However, it can also be used by people testing the water to see how people would react, ie people who have had some sort of issue with it, and have raised it in convo to see how people react.
I'm sorry for this useless post. I really hope I have not offended you in anyway, or stepped out of line.
Take care