I have this female friend who had been a major source of both joy and contention for the better part of two decades. For the purpose of anonymity I will refer to her as "Amy". We meet in high school back in 1995, when we were both young grunger kids. After losing touch for a few years, our paths crossed again in 2001. We've been relatively close friends ever since. In 2010 we became lovers, but broke up two years later for reasons I will explain below.
She doesn't have a job in the conventional sense, nor do I believe she has tried to put forth any serious effort (a regular job at minimum wage is so far beneath her). Amy claims to be a housekeeper for a neighbor. She lives with her mother, who, I suspect, enables her lifestyle of gaming, clubbing, and the like. In her younger days, she was very judgement and negative, and seems like she is better than most people.
Our friendship is complex. My ex wife hated her, as she was often times a third wheel in our outings. When I got divorced and had a life-threatening surgery , Amy told my mom who much she really loved me and wanted to be with me, hence our love affair of two years. She didn't like sex, and often times used me. She wouldn't contribute in any way to anything, and sometimes talked down to me.
We've been hanging out off and on for a few years, now, but every time I'm with her she drags me down at times. I think she tried to still use me, and there is an unspoken awkwardness between us. I really do love her, but I know I deserve better (even if it never comes, as I often say). Amy is often critical of my relationships and family, as well. Should I allow my friendship to continue, or should I run the risk of being friendless without her?
She doesn't have a job in the conventional sense, nor do I believe she has tried to put forth any serious effort (a regular job at minimum wage is so far beneath her). Amy claims to be a housekeeper for a neighbor. She lives with her mother, who, I suspect, enables her lifestyle of gaming, clubbing, and the like. In her younger days, she was very judgement and negative, and seems like she is better than most people.
Our friendship is complex. My ex wife hated her, as she was often times a third wheel in our outings. When I got divorced and had a life-threatening surgery , Amy told my mom who much she really loved me and wanted to be with me, hence our love affair of two years. She didn't like sex, and often times used me. She wouldn't contribute in any way to anything, and sometimes talked down to me.
We've been hanging out off and on for a few years, now, but every time I'm with her she drags me down at times. I think she tried to still use me, and there is an unspoken awkwardness between us. I really do love her, but I know I deserve better (even if it never comes, as I often say). Amy is often critical of my relationships and family, as well. Should I allow my friendship to continue, or should I run the risk of being friendless without her?
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