Sorry if this comes off as kind of a rant. However, my recent situation has been eating away at me since it happened a week ago. Anyway a week ago, my ex forced me to break off all contact with her. She basically said "I do not know if I will have time for you any more and if my boyfriend will really approve of me spending time with you". So I told her to go swallow his c*** and only come back when she is single. I am hurt so very hurt by a lot of the things she said. However, there is one thing that confuses me, as well as hurts me. She said that her feelings for me were getting in the way of her relationship with this new guy. I know that when it comes to love an attraction there is not much logic, for instance why am I so hurt? However, this does not make sense at all, to me anyway. Why would you go to someone else when you clearly have feelings for another person? Especially when those feelings will be reciprocate. I know that I only really thought about these feelings when she was planning on leaving me. I won't make excuses there. However, the feelings are there. Yet she decides to go to another guy? A guy who she likes, but does not have any real feelings for because I am there? This just seems stupid. Like setting yourself up for failure. I mean it would make sense if she did not have any feelings for me. However, she said that the simple act of talking on the phone made her cast doubt on her choice to be with this new guy. The simple act of coming over to my apartment, alone or otherwise, and sitting on my couch and playing video games or watching anime with me made her feel like she was cheating on this new guy. Maybe that was just paranoia. So can someone please speculate for me? Seriously I am stupid when it comes to this kind of stuff. My lack of relationship experience makes it hard for me to figure anything out. You give up someone you obviously love and want for someone you could date? That just seems stupid from a relationship stand point. Please do not get me wrong I am not going back to her. I am not looking for a way to get back to her. She left me and when this relationship fails or becomes bland I will be there to laugh and that is it. If I ever hear from her again. I just want some closure, because even if I asked her why she would just answer with "I do not know".