I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody else

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Aurora Gory Alice, Apr 23, 2009.

  1. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Does anybody feel like they don't know how to be happy?
    Don't know how to be normal?
    Don't know how to be like everybody else and just get on with life?

    I found some old classmates on facebook today, but my profile is hidden thankfully because I wouldn't want anybody adding me or even seeing what I am like now.

    - A few were married or in long term relationships.
    - Some had babies.
    - Most had reasonable jobs or you know, at least had a job.
    - Lots had pictures of them out enjoying themselves, out on the town with their friends, out drinking, on holidays, family weddings, christenings, things like that.
    - Basically they were just grown ups.

    I know not everything is black and white, I know underneath it all everybody has their problems, their worries, and their issues. But the majority of people I know are 'basically' happy.

    Why can't I be?
    Why did it all go wrong for me?
    Why can't I just be normal?

    I hate when people say things like meh, I wouldn't want to be normal and like everybody else

    Oh who are you trying to kid!!

    You want to fit in and be the norm, just like everybody else, otherwise you wouldn't be on here complaining about the woes of your crappy lives, just like I am.
    We all just want to be happy and content.

    Are the people I went to school with on here complaining about how shit their lives are?
    Are you all crying yourselves to sleep, jobless, overweight, boyfriendless and unhappy, no money, no love in your lives even from your own family, no friends, nothing to look forward to, nothing to live for.

    Doesn't look like it.
     
  2. cult logic

    cult logic Staff Alumni

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    I wish I could fit in with the norm too.

    I just can't figure out what's wrong, I'm outwardly just like everyone else. But I still don't fit in.

    I guess some of is are just not meant to fit in, eh?

    Anyway I'm probably not helping so I'll just say that I understand and am sorry that you're going through this. :hug:
     
  3. Ants

    Ants Well-Known Member

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    I've been there. I found that part of the reason I didn't fit in was because I was trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. I gave that up and let myself find that balance where I could be the misfit that I am. I have friends now that accept me for me. Regular people even. I am here because my wife of 21 years left me and I didn't see it coming. But because my friends accept me for who I am I don't want to burden them with my troubles. I am not "normal" in the regular sense of things, but if they knew the thoughts I am having now I just might push that envelope of friendship. So I am here, in what I have found to be a comfortable enviornment.
     
  4. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    Thanks Brandon. I guess you're right about the some of us just aren't meant to fit in.
    Worst thing is - I tried to meet some people who were 'like me', and I found that I didn't fit in with them either.
    It's a nightmare.

    You're lucky you found friends who accepted you for who you are Ant, most of us aren't so fortunate. :(
     
  5. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    Maybe we will never be normal. We go through things to extremes maybe most people don't go through. And maybe it's not because it's not there but just because nothing ever set them off. I think everyone has the potential to be suicidal/depressed... but sometimes they just never have anything happen to them or they just keep themselves so busy their whole lives they never even stop to consider if they are happy or not.
    Try to see it as a blessing, and envision another side.
     
  6. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    You saw the ones who want to be seen. Who wants to be seen? Successful, happy people who don't feel like shit in front of their old classmates. And you only allow the good things to be seen. You don't put "painkiller addiction" on Facebook.

    So, you're worse than the white-washed front people put on. But behind that they're probably shit.

    To answer the problem stated in the thread title: to become normal, lie. About everything. All the time.

    Then you will fit in.
     
  7. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    Facebook along with all those social networking sites is a pretentious pain! Most of those people are faking it, I've looked on peoples friends lists and a lot of people I know don't have any 'real' friends on theirs just a lot of people that added them no to be rude.

    Its all a front designed to make a person look good, also I wouldn't want a friends list search able by others, the bitching alone that it would cause is unbearable, I'm friends with you but I don't want you to be friends with him..blah blah blah. :dry::rolleyes:
     
  8. Celebrated Thing

    Celebrated Thing Well-Known Member

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    I think I know what you mean. I friended some old classmates on facebook and was so embarassed about my life I just deleted my entire acount. But I know exactly how you feel about saying "Basically they were being grown ups" While my old classmates and even friends younger than me are getting great jobs and in happy relationships and overall doing so awesome Im being escorted by the police to the hospital for a forced phych evaluation. I feel like everything is over, like the good times are gone and thats it. Im sorry I cant offer anything constructive but I hope you can take a little comfort in having someone going through some similar issues.

    I dont know you, but a lot of what you said rings true for me.
    Like I said, Im sorry I cant offer any answers, but two things, 1. You DO have things to live for, you may not see it, but its there, 2. As I said before I feel a lot of what you wrote, PM me if you need someone who has similar views to vent with.
     
  9. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    Re: I just wanna be normal - I just wanna fit in - I just want to be like everybody e

    I don't fit in either.. All my life people used me for what they could get and bam they disappear.. Half of them were always trying to get me in fights because of my size.. I am a pacifist by nature but will defend myself..I have never had a best friend until here lately.. I have met a best friend through the forum..
    I think alot of it is the way I was raised.. Moving every two years because my dad was military. I never learned how to bond with others..Now I am an isolationist, Socialphobic, augoriphoboc, paranoid, personality disorder, amongst other problems.. I now won't let others in because I am tired of the pain that always follows..Just want you to know you aren't alone...Take Care!!