I miss you, grandpa

Discussion in 'Grief and Bereavement' started by Alloloa, May 9, 2010.

  1. Alloloa

    Alloloa Member


    My grandfather passed away a long time ago, it was on Martin Luther King's Day, in 2001 I think. I was 13. He'd started to show serious signs of illness (parkinson diagnostic, although we don't know if it's reliable) when I was 9 years old. We were making a party for me, all my family was there, we were supposed to go the restaurant, but my grandfather suddenly let fall a glass, so my parents drove him back home.

    I miss him so much! We were only seeing each other during summer vacations, because we lived abroad, and he was with my grandmother in France (Toulouse). I saw his health worsening every summer, and, when we left in the middle of August 2000 (I'm not sure about the date), I knew I'd never see him again. I kept telling my parents that we had to go back there for Christmas, but they didn't want to. Thankfully, my father had a training in Paris in December, and afterwards he spent two days with his parents. The worst was to realize I'd never see him again. My sister and I weren't allowed to go to the funerals, which took place in France. I think it didn't help in getting the pain away...

    I don't know why, but I've been thinking about him all the time for two weeks, and I miss him so much! He was a great man, and a loving grandfather. Now my grandmother is 87, and I'm terribly afraid of losing her...

    So, sorry for this summary of my grandfather's illness, but it's not something we talk about at home, and I needed to share it with, because right now it weights easily on my head.

    Thanks for reading,

  2. Aquarius123

    Aquarius123 Well-Known Member

    Message of love from your Grandpa

    Dear Friend – I am so very sorry to read about the way you are still grieving for your grandpa. My inner self prompts me to share with you the following, in the hope that it may help you to come to terms with this loss.


    The way I understand this life is that although we are eternal beings who cannot die and even though in truth there is no death, to say: ‘Death is nothing!’ would belittle its significance. What we earthlings perceive as death, when someone departs from this plane, is but a change and a transformation into a different state of life, which every soul has to undergo at the end of each lifetime. I believe that eventually everybody will reach the level of awareness where they can accept that this is so; we shall thus save ourselves a great deal of pain and suffering. You don’t have to take my word for it that this is true. How about trying the following for yourself?

    First find a quite space where you can be sure that no-one will disturb you for a reasonable length of time. The best and safest way of doing this is by first asking your Guardian Angel to stand by you, to guide and protect you and show you the way. Then make yourself as comfortable as you can, light a candle, look into its flame, centre yourself by listening to the sound of your breathing, and feel how you are becoming still. Only when you are good and ready start to imagine that your loved one is drawing close and wishes to communicate with you. Focus on your heart and listen to the words of comfort that come to you from there, safe in the knowledge that these are not messages from some ‘other world out there somewhere’ but from your own heart, where your grandpa presently dwells.

    Having done this for a moment or two, read the words that start at the following paragraph. Don’t think about them or evaluate them, but focus your attention on the world of your feelings and listen to the responses that come from your heart; they are your inner guidance. This is what your grandpa wishes to tell you:

    ‘I have not gone from you. I have merely slipped onto different level of life and that is very much like going into another room. The world of spirit is not some place else; it is not ‘up there’, but an integral part of your present environment, the material world. Although I no longer dwell on that plane, I am still myself and you are you; we always shall be. We are eternal beings who cannot die and whatever we have ever been to each other, we still are. The love between us does not need to die through my departure. The great wisdom of the Divine has decreed that, on the contrary, through the experience of death human love should grow stronger and deeper – if two souls so wish.

    ‘That’s why I ask you to call me by my old familiar names, let them be the well-known words they always were and say them without effort. Speak to me the easy way you used to do and let there be no difference in the sound of your voice. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Enjoy the jokes that made us laugh and express your amusement the way we always did together. Play with me and smile at me. Think of me and pray for me in the manner you always did. Never doubt for a moment that I can hear you, that I feel your love, and that I shall always be with you, wherever you are.

    ‘Life is eternal and the human spirit is immortal; in truth, there is no death and life consists of absolute and unbroken continuity. On its inner level all is one, and you are as much part of me as I am of you. Nothing needs to change between you and me, just because I have gone through the great transformation before you. If we both so wish, our relationship can remain the same it always was between you and me, and life continues to be everything it has meant to us. My departure from the physical plane was no accident; it was meant to happen exactly when it did. For your sake – not mine – make an effort to accept this, the way I have done. And don’t believe anyone who tries to tell you that because I am out of your sight, I should also be out of your mind. That can only happen, if you so wish. But if you still want me, the death of my physical body is going to present us with many opportunities for coming closer to each other than it was ever possible, when we both still dwelled in physicality.

    ‘You can find me and be with me, whenever you want to, because I shall be alive in your heart, for as long as you want me to be there. In the corners of your mind I am always waiting for your call. I shall never be further away from you than a thought, and you can get in touch with me whenever you want; it’s as simple as that. I shall always listen to you when you need me; when you call me, I shall come to help and guide you. But, never forget that you and I each have different lessons to attend to – you in the material world, and I now in the world of light. Therefore, let us also give each other the necessary space and time, so that when we do meet we can come ever closer to each other, to share precious moments – the way we always did. All rests safely in God’s hands; all is well. God and the Angels are always with you and with me, and am I.’

    With love and light,
  3. Alloloa

    Alloloa Member

    Hello Aquarius123,

    I first wanted to apologize for answering so late to your message of comfort. The reason is that I'm pretty messed up because of my family, which makes me in no mood to come here, although it could be very handy.

    I finally red your answer, and I wanted to thank you. Although I don't believe in spirits, it brought me comfort to imagine my grandfather talking to me; it's exactly the way he would have done it, I think. I could almost recognize his voice, and it brought tears to my eyes (it still does, but it's not sorrow or anything, even if I can't put words on it).

    So, thank you very much.
  4. Aquarius123

    Aquarius123 Well-Known Member

    Thank you, dear Alloloa, for your reply and feedback. Don't apologise! I understand the feelings only too well. And if you shed some tears, let them be tears of joy because your grandpa hasn't gone from you and tears of compassion for yourself, for your misery and pain. Not to be mistaken for wallowing in self-pity, but I am sure you know just what I mean.

    With love - Aquarius

  5. Aquarius123

    Aquarius123 Well-Known Member

    Dear Friend - if you had such a close and loving relationship with your grandpa, he is very likely to be around you and with you much of the time. May the following bring you a measure of comfort:

    Look through the window,
    And see the light;
    Smell the sweet flowers;
    See the sky bright.

    Shed no more tears,
    When you feel I have gone –
    Love never leaves;
    My Spirit lives on.

    Talk with me often –
    Your words will be heard;
    I will be by your side,
    As swift as a bird.

    Love life and laugh;
    Together we’ll be
    On the right path,
    As our Spirits fly free.

    Nora Richmond


    With love - Aquarius​