I really have nothing to live for

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by carter001, Jun 24, 2011.

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  1. carter001

    carter001 Active Member

    I mean I can't function,I have to avoid people because of my social phobia,I haven't had a girlfriend ever!!! I have no friends,no job,no prospects.

    My dad is an asshole who abuses my mother,verbally,and I can't do anything about it,so I have to listen to the two of them fighting constantly.I feel helpless.

    I want to die but my family keep me alive.I think if a person truly wants to die they should be allowed too.

    I'm pretty much done with life at this point.
     
  2. Hoasis

    Hoasis Well-Known Member

    This sounds a bit like me man, I cant even talk to people anymore because I get so nervous and cant say a sentence without mumbling. Never had a real friend, never had a girlfriend...just nothing. But hey man, lets enjoy the last few moments we have left:) We are born and we die, its a natural process, nothing to be down about:) cheers mate
     
  3. LillMy8989

    LillMy8989 Well-Known Member

    Me neither... I am selfdiagnosed with the Stress Syndrome(when stress goes Way to far and serious TO HELL!) ->Link for the interested

    It is so hard to stand tall and be one strong when someone is calling for help and me sitting and life is a piece a shit, shit, Shit! I have learned though to keep stay calm and answering the questions to help others, kinda!...

    About your 'problem', there's no problem it is all about training, be there and 'stay calm', nothing is going to hurt you, No one! Take your time and feel it, what is like to just be there... If someone wants to speak with you(I know, risk is 'mestoryboring'-talk, or weird noises) First...1..2..3.. breath out-in...DONT HURRY! Just go aside till its fine, but say you must say something this time(everytime), SOMETHING!

    I am scared of snakes, heights and claustrophobic, things I can avoid but please socials and people... Why this phobia???! We are 'human'(because its destroying) pack animals! I dont have this but because of stressDisease I just cannot... life is hard, then you die!
     
  4. LillMy8989

    LillMy8989 Well-Known Member

    When I talk fast I do WRONG, When I speak loud I do WRONG, When I mumbling I do WRONG, When I speak normal I do WRONG, When I Am Telling the TRUTH I do WRONG!
     
  5. Autumn01

    Autumn01 Well-Known Member


    I don't know how to act around people anymore.
    I don't have any friends either. Also out of a job with no job prospects. Will be broke soon. I'm so ready to end my life.
     
  6. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    Hey Carter,
    I well relate to you.. I've had socialphobia, agoriphobia, and paranoia for the last 26 years.. I have no RL friends.. I do have friends that I amde here on the forum.. I stay locked away in my bedroom 24/7..I was in therapy for five years..I learned alot about myself.. One thing I learned is that the way we feel is o.k. No one has the right to dictate how you live..If your o.k. with it then it is fine.. If your not then you need to see a therapist to learn coping skills..
     
  7. peacelovingguy

    peacelovingguy Well-Known Member

    Hey Carter - I guess your young - there is still plenty of time for you to get a girl. Main thing is not to look desperate - or too desperate! Work out the engagement finger and marriage finger to stop any embarrassing moments! (or painful ones)

    I'll get back to that.

    As for your father - tut tut - he is not impressing anyone here. I mean to say, you marry a woman and you are supposed to be civil to her. Sometimes you don't have lots of things in common - but my father always at least said 'hello darling' when he got in from work and I've never heard him use any abuse towards my mother. With two sons - he would have had to fight us first!

    Sometimes that kind of relationship works with verbal friction. As long as he does not belittle her and as long as she can fire back - I guess its not the end of the world. If he was hurtful to your mother - a son always takes the mother's side (were both sides are equal). Talk to your mum - don't just confront your father with this - as you being the son you need to be diplomatic. Its not like you have to fight your own father to prove you are a man or anything!

    Families are there for us. That is how a good family works! If one is somehow unable to be healthy and function 100% - the others are there to help. I'm sure you would be the first to help your mother or father if they needed help.

    As for not functioning - its normal to do this at times and often as not when we are not working and maybe have no education - its easy to fall into a kind of rut in our own minds. We think we cannot measure up to the demands made of us - everyone feels this and everyone takes it their own way.

    If you feel you are not ready yet - then look at your ALL your options - not just the dead end of suicide. Dying might end the pressure of life - but what if you tried to die and then halfway through you 'see' that at least life offers chances to do something right? After all you do not know what the future will bring my friend - and you don't know how many friends will be there for you.

    We make friends when we are feeling positive about ourselves. We attract people to us when we feel positive about ourselves. Even with my looks - when I'm feeling OK in myself - on a good night (at a certain light, and a certain angle) I attract the odd women. Not 'funny' odd - either! But if I go out and feel down - it shows - and at that point most women will ditch me because most are looking for night out to escape bad news. Not everyone is depressed - but they might be if I said something like "I wish I was dead".

    That line only works for men with 'sultry' or moody suicide boy looks. I'm in my late forties - I just look like a therapist on the pi**. I have not got those Jim Morrison looks that would 'ease' my interactions with the female sex. So I have to work hard - have to talk the talk - which is the main 'weapon' a man has in his armoury in pursuit of passion and romance.

    I've not had any romance for a long while, but don't worry about it because its not the most important thing in life. You need to be yourself - to do things for yourself and be the kind of man who a woman might notice. To get in the radar you have to get out - but social phobias have to be tackled first. All this online romance - forget that bro - you will only end up late at night - starting off looking for love - ending up on some porn website and feeling even more down because you feel like a voyeur.

    Many men - I'm just saying - get depressed by the idealised image of sex on tap. Everyone is getting it on - on the internet - and you might think 'Why am I alone?'

    Its obvious - you , we, got to get out more.

    As for jobs - education, you have to get on top of other things in your life - mainly the darkness you carry around and the way you feel in your current environment. Not sure how old you are - or if you have left school - but guess your fairly young and worrying about things which seem real enough to you. Depression makes that happen - makes us think we have failed for reasons which are never going to stand up in a court of law.

    Nobody gets sentenced to death for making mistakes - not in civilised nations. As for letting people just die because they feel useless - blame instead the society which offers little opportunity to us, which lies to us. You reach a certain age and sometimes you feel like the lies become contagious - like your living the lie or that life from now on has to be a lie.

    Know yourself is the main thing. In many ways you already have insights into yourself - see your flaws and weaknesses, but not once point to depression and at no point do you say if you have sought any help from a doctor or maybe via medication.

    Maybe you don't need meds - but if you feel like dying too much - well, you know your own mind - men keep it that way usually but it would be good if you could tell someone.

    One day I'm sure you'll have your own women - but at least you have your mother and maybe can talk to her - but keep it subtle and you do not want to upset her. Tell her you want to be a success so she does nto have to worry about. I'm sure she and your dad would be heartbroken if you kept this to yourself until such a point you could not carry on.

    Anyhow, I'm sure you will not come to that.

    Jobs, women, I need them both but sometimes you got to just grin and bear it - because one day it will happen, and it will happen all the more sooner if we get help.

    My regards and good wishes from the rainy Isle.
     
  8. Wetgirl

    Wetgirl New Member

    same and nothing gets better either! when u dont try u just go down and down and down! im not trying fro anything, not trying for college, not trying for help, not trying for anything, so ill deteriorate until im ready to die!!
     
  9. carter001

    carter001 Active Member

    Thanks peacelovingguy

    and everyone else.i guess things aren't so bleek,there is hope for me
     
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