This is something that is said here a LOT. The general theme one or a combination of: I hate my life I feel crap People don't respond to me the way I want them to People treat me in a way that makes me feel bad I can't get a job I can't get a gf/bf (Not an exhaustive list) Followed by the refrain "people should accept me for who I am". People. Judge. Watch this video (its just an example - not 'the' example - just an opening point for debate. Obviously the format of it is tacky but I hope people can leave that aside) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TXXi6UsWWbI The ONLY thing that happened here is she changed the way she PRESENTED herself. She didn't change who she is. She didn't change her body or her face. She did not change her personality. She changed the image she is presenting to the world instead. "I shouldn't have to change" most often seems to mean a person thinks other people/the world should change to accommodate them instead. This is obviously very much to do with her appearance, and I don't want the debate to focus on appearance, I would like it to focus on CHANGE and the need for it. There is no question here - just a topic open for thoughts/input.