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I wish I wasn't so stupid.

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by friendless, Jul 24, 2011.

  1. friendless

    friendless Well-Known Member

    I can't do this anymore. I'm unfit for life. Stupid. Socially awkward. Stupid mostly.
  2. w1thh3art

    w1thh3art New Member

    Hi friendless. I don't know you, but I'm pretty confident you're not stupid. And if you're socially awkward, who cares. F*#$ anyone who thinks you need to act a certain way. Seriously. F them! Be you. Like they say, let your freak flag fly. From one awkward person to another, hugs and high fives.

  3. ZombiePringle

    ZombiePringle Forum Buddy and Antiquities Friend

    You're not stupid. I know stupid people and you're not one of them. As for being socially awkward... It's actually a really hard thing to be able to just go and talk to people. I'm completely awful at it. All that really matters is you find that one friend that understands you and you don't have to worry about saying the wrong things to. If you haven't found that person yet its okay... You will.
  4. lachrymose27

    lachrymose27 Well-Known Member

    Cool, you took the words right out of my mouth.

  5. starryeyed

    starryeyed Well-Known Member

    You deserve happiness.nobody is stupid.certainly not you
  6. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    Stupid! I think NOT!
    Have had much pleasure from your posts in the banned game, so NOT socially inept either.
    You've made me laugh out loud, you've fitted right in with all of us who play and your joining was seamless. :hug:
  7. Speedy

    Speedy Staff Alumni

    I don't know you, but I feel stupid when I'm down and sometimes worry whether I can ever pass college classes and get a degree or even hold down a regular job. Also, I am socially awkward if it's the social norm I have to conform to (not to mention I'm a man of few words).

    If you show that you care for others and accept who you are (I'd like to think you do :)), there will be people who like you for who you are. You might have more obstacles in your way and they might be harder to find, but there are people out there that can be friends with you. I believe in that hope :D There are people like the ones on SF in real life too. I wish you the best of luck! 1 friend is one more than what a lot of people have!
  8. friendless

    friendless Well-Known Member

    I haven't actually checked this thread since I originally posted it. :unsure:


    Thank you all so much, you're so sweet. I should probably give you some context: I met someone that, in retrospect, could have been an excellent partner but because this person was financially and emotionally stable I said 'no' and went with a loser who is somewhat psychologically abusive and controlling. I was brooding on this and the gyre of self-pity continued to widen to include every other stupid mistake I've ever made in my life, starting with my decision to stay with my current BF and move from Colorado to Texas and going all the way back to middle school, which was 19 years ago.

    I look back on my mistakes and tell myself 'boy, I'll never do that again' but I always do! Even when I'm caught up in the middle of stupid drama and I know I will regret my decision but I do it anyway.
  9. Speedy

    Speedy Staff Alumni

    I believe the wonderful law of total probability says that you will make some decisions that you will be proud of making. A lot of it is chance! ;) Sorry you aren't happy with that decision about which person to go out with.

  10. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    Been here! Worn the hair shirt! and know what, what a waste of time it all is.
    We all make mistakes, the thing to do is to rectify what we can and break the pattern that has us making them over and over again.
    Actually recognising the pattern is the road to breaking them, and you seem to be at this point.
    Don't waste anymore energy on whatifs! whatifs are a complete waste of time and rectify nothing.
    Decide what you want to do and stick to it, but think it out properly so you know you are heading in the right direction.
  11. friendless

    friendless Well-Known Member

    I think the best thing for me now is to learn to be independent as opposed to my current codependent, lonely, needy, desperate behavior. Alone-but not lonely. It's also about time I learned to love myself. Listen to my own common sense. Go back to school for the sake of my daughter's future.

    But this sounds too logical for me so we'll see how it goes.

    :dead: AAAAAAAAAaaarrrrrrrrrggggg! Logic and reason! It burns! :dead:
  12. Speedy

    Speedy Staff Alumni

    Logic and reason for the win!! Go Dona!!!! :thumbup:

    I give thee this for using logic and reason!