While I would never wish to offer an account that conflicts with anyone’s personal, firsthand accounts and experiences—the only thing I will add to it, is based on some of the things I have read over the years, based on Survivor’s testimonies. And that is basically that, when they choose to go out in this manner, at least publicly—that
Is: in the view of others — it makes what’s already been done even worse, or compounded by the fact that suicidal contains, or comes with so much “stigma,” attached to it. And thus, on top of all the already ongoing grief associated with the loss, you now have on your hands in addition to that, everyone pointing ☝️ their fingers at you (or your dearly departed), and passing judgement. Not that they will say anything of course. They won’t have to. The way in which they treat you , collectively will be able to be felt, and gauged based upon their actions, and in some cases - inactions (in comparison to one that has not been “labeled,” as such; that being, “cloaked,” or surrounded by some might say, something of a ‘Scarlet A.’)!
Having said all that—the accounts given seeming to contradict these statements are persuasive and strong against everything I have read. Growing up we had three students commit in four years at our very small high school. I can only say that it felt like they were forever shunned—& almost no one ever again mentioned their names (at least out in public). It felt, “taboo,”
Somehow to do so. . & I can only begin to imagine what their families had to go through. Now, this was quite a long time ago. . & so, I’d like to be able to tell you that we’ve come so far as a country and everything has changed in terms of the stigma associated with said topic. But I don’t think we’re quite there yet — albeit somewhat closer, as a society — I’m still not sure we’re quite where we’d want to be! There are also never any guarantees in the planning, staging and thus implementing of such a stunt. Regardless of your level of expertise; or the skills with which you possess to pull it off, no thing is concrete or set in stone. In other words, things can and do and most likely, or will go wrong; or not exactly how you plotted them out - or expected them to, this is life, I’m afraid. And sometimes, too, death. So you may feel somewhat at ease or more conscience free from blame - but if you do not succeed (to pull it off - the “staging of a crime scene,” & yes- that is what it is... and it will be investigated as such, by people who are paid and trained and have a lot more experience doing what they’re about to do than you likely do - doing what you want or wish to do. Regardless of manner or fashion in which , you choose to follow through.). So, it’s a gamble- at best! Hopefully—you’re not ☝️ One - or the sort, that likes that kind of thing. Far too risky for someone like me - with the way my brain / mind works & thinks. Too many things unforeseen or left to chance. The variables alone are not only endless, but maddening!