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If you could start your life over again...

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Petal, Nov 26, 2017.

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  1. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    What you do differently? What changes would you make? What regrets would you not have this time?

    Just curious :)
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  2. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    What an interesting and thought provoking question...i think i would have listened more to my inner self rather than my parents when it came to choosing a career path...though i enjoy my profession (not my current job as seen from earlier posts)...i often wonder what i might have done instead and what paths i missed traveling down...
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  3. GeminiStar

    GeminiStar Well-Known Member

    I don't think i can even count just how many things I'd do differently. Its easier to just say "everything".
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  4. BarryW

    BarryW Well-Known Member

    I would reach out for help earlier.
  5. ritrukr

    ritrukr New Member

    Yes I would. But I only hope it does not go the same route.
  6. Lara_C

    Lara_C SF Supporter

    Knowing what I do now, I would do a lot of things differently to avoid running into trouble. Often when we understand the lessons of experience, it's too late to change anything, but I'm ok with that and don't actually have too many regrets. I kind of feel everything unfolds as it should, and the facts are ultimately kind.
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  7. Brian777

    Brian777 Safety and Support SF Artist SF Supporter

    Many things. I’d definetly get help earlier instead of masking symptoms it with medication.
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  8. ritrukr

    ritrukr New Member

    I saw way to many friends die.<mod edit - methods> . Been on and off meds for 14 years. But still would not try it over again. Could only imagine what is in store for the 2nd time around.
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  9. sedamDanaLjeta

    sedamDanaLjeta SF Supporter

    From this point in time I wish I would be more present and open to whatever life brings.
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  10. vsaenz

    vsaenz Member

    I wish I would have experience life a little more. I am young but there are a lot of things I just glided through because I was so intent on work and keeping busy to get a job. I never enjoyed the little things. I also would go back and double major to have a back up for a career something that wouldn’t put in front of people all the time. I love accounting and I wish i double majored in it.
    I guess beauty about life is that it’s not over yet. At 23, while I have established a good career, I can also go back for my master in accounting and pursue another job that might be better fit for the realities of my life.
    The biggest things is that I would have educated myself earlier on mental health. It would have saved me from years of pain. Just having a name to what I was dealing with made me feel less crazy.
  11. Lulabelle

    Lulabelle Forum Pro SF Supporter

    I would walk home from school a different route that day. I wouldn't have dropped out of art college. I wouldn't have children - I love them more than I can ever express but it was wrong to bring them in to such a cruel world.
  12. vsaenz

    vsaenz Member

    I empathazie with this. I fear having kids will be a regret. There is pressure all around me to have them. I don’t want them and I don’t want to have this sentiment. I can already feel the regret and I haven’t even had them. I am sorry you have felt like that abou it.
  13. betteroffunknown

    betteroffunknown Well-Known Member

    That's a tough question. I see it could go two ways. If I could do it over knowing what I know now there are a ton of things I'd do differently.

    If I can't take lessens learned from this one I wouldn't want a do over. Heaven only knows I'd probably be destined to make the same mistakes I did this round. I have difficulty dealing with having gone thru what I have this time. I'd hate to go thru it all again. PTSD provides plenty enough of that as it is.
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  14. sassy123

    sassy123 SF hugger Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I would never have gone on a second date with my ex nothing I miss from that relationship
  15. Reaver

    Reaver Well-Known Member

    I wouldn't take the opportunity because I know that I'd mess it up just as badly.
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  16. na-taya

    na-taya Well-Known Member

    To look after my teeth and have better oral hygiene
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  17. Tired and trapped

    Tired and trapped Well-Known Member

    I can point to a few specific times where I would say I first "went off course" and I would like to change, but the more I think about it the more I believe I would have ended up here anyway. At this point I would prefer to have never existed.
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  18. Deety

    Deety SF Supporter

    If I had the choice, I just wouldn't exist. If I was to do anything differently I wouldn't have ended up with my kids, and they are my whole world.
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  19. MarkahMalady

    MarkahMalady Well-Known Member

    When we moved in middle school I'd immediately befriend the nerdy smart girls! Being too cool for school was entirely non beneficial to any part of my life, and has really only negatively impacted everything thus far.
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  20. Behind_the_cutrain

    Behind_the_cutrain Well-Known Member

    Nothing. I did maaany many mistakes. But my actions brought me to who I am today. If I changed a single thing I would be a different person. Every day is a new chance and a new start on our lives. We all carry our packages.. but they involve happy times and lessons we take.the only promise i make my self is that tomorrow i will try to be better rhan yesterday. Doesnt matter if i made it. What matters is that i tried. And never. Never. Compare myself to anyone. Nobody walked on my shoes. And i didnt walk on theirs :)
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