If you could start your life over again...

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Petal, Nov 26, 2017.

  1. Winter Blues

    Winter Blues SF Supporter

    I would be a great mum to my children so their futures were happy
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  2. Behind_the_cutrain

    Behind_the_cutrain Well-Known Member

    It is never too late. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. I dont know what life had for you so far. And things may nor be perfect.
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  3. Muriel

    Muriel Active Member

    I would never had said “yes”. And to those others, I wish I’d said “yes”.
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  4. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    I do not know if you are already a good mom or not but this sentence shows you really really love them and care about them. So it means you are not a bad mother either. I hope I didn't hurt you but it made me think that way
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  5. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    for some things its late . To love myself it is not late but ...there is always a 'but' you know..
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  6. JustLovely

    JustLovely Wants to become a cat

    I would've ended my previous relationships before they messed me up to the point where I am now
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  7. LonelyHiker

    LonelyHiker Active Member

    I try not to dwell on the past/regrets, but if I could do it over, I wouldn't get married or have children. I love my son more than anything, but he deserves a better Dad than the depression-addled one that he's got. And I dread the sort of world he's probably going to wind up with...
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  8. JD4010

    JD4010 Well-Known Member

    Yes. That about sums it up. My daughter had to grow up around me and that must have left some scars.

    I share your "optimism" about the future of this world as well.

    One other thing, if I could do it over...I would never have started drinking.
  9. gypsylee

    gypsylee SF Supporter

    Yes, I know I said I’d run away (to the circus) at 7yo and tell people I’m an orphan ;)

    But on another level I wouldn’t change anything:

  10. theedda

    theedda Well-Known Member

    Honestly, as bad as I feel about my life and myself, I don't know if I'd want to. Without the very specific events of my life, I wouldn't have met the people I care about at the right place and at the right time. Maybe I'd have another set of friends, maybe I'd have more of them, maybe I'd have a girlfriend. But I wouldn't have memories of smoking with my friends outside our dorms, staying up until 5 AM making dumb jokes and laughing. I wouldn't have been there to talk my friend out of suicide, or help calm my other friend down after he got his heart broken by a girl. And for all those memories, there's probably a hundred bad ones, and a hundred times I've screwed up. But I accept the person I am, for better or worse, and I wouldn't even be him if I had had a different life.
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  11. Ineluki

    Ineluki Well-Known Member

    I have so many regrets, and things I replay over and over in my mind with shame and regret, but I worry about my kids with this question. If I did anything differently, might I jeopardize their existence in some way?
  12. sassy123

    sassy123 Chat Pro SF Supporter

    I agree if I had kids that would have been my answer also but since I don’t I want a do over hugs stay safe
  13. Ineluki

    Ineluki Well-Known Member

    This has me thinking. I might have a solution, but not right now. Maybe tomorrow.
  14. Lilyrose1234

    Lilyrose1234 Member

    I want to go back and fix some things but , I also believe that those things in the past also did me some good even though it felt as it was only bad at the moment.
    I wish I hadn't been so slow and been more daring at first (not when things were disintegrating) , maybe he would still be with me if it wasn't for my stupid brain always thinking of the consequences. Now I have to live with this regret but , maybe the future holds something better , I really don't know.
  15. cymbele

    cymbele SF Supporter

    I would have stayed on my meds instead of going off them like I did and then breaking up with my ex. I would be married and happy now instead of lonely and sometimes sad. But I have good friends to help me and I won't go off my meds anymore.