Having a relationship with a person who self-injures can at times be frustrating and very upsetting. Your partner might have been self-injuring long before they met you and you might think that now they have you that they shouldn’t feel the need to hurt themselves anymore. However, self-injury is a complex behaviour, and no matter how much you would like your partner to stop hurting themselves, it is not that simple. Encourage your partner to seek professional help (if they have not done so already) – counselling as a couple might be appropriate for you. Be there for them through the highs and the lows, but make sure that you look after yourself as well.