If you helped someone, would you wish to know?

If you made a significant positive difference in someone's life, would you:

  • A) Actively wish to know

    Votes: 6 46.2%
  • B) Happily find out but not wish to seek the answer

    Votes: 6 46.2%
  • C) Not be fussed either way

    Votes: 1 7.7%
  • D) Find receiving thanks if it wasnt intentional kinda awkward.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • E) Not wish to know

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters


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I always assumed that if you helped someone in a significant way, it would be something you wished to know, something that would make you happy to know, but I had a conversation recently that suggested some people dont care if they know or not.

I just thought I would post a poll, feel free to discuss your answer, but please do answer the poll.

The question: If you made a significant positive difference in someone's life, intentionally or otherwise, would you actively want to know?


Well-Known Member
I think we need to know the effects of our actions in order for us to know our virtues and faults and improve ourselves. Or consider the contrary, suppose you caused great harm to someone else and you don't realize it; you would continue to live behaving the same way and hurting others without realizing it.


SF Supporter
I'm a nurse and a midwife and was a committed one the 35 plus years I showed up for it.
And I do random acts of kindness and helpfulness anyway, used to be frequently but covid and the last couple of years has slowed down the frequency some on that one.
So no, for me knowing isn't important, the size of the giving isn't important. It was and is the act of giving that's the gift for me.
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Owner Emeritus
I wouldn't have to know, but there are times when knowing can be helpful. I think in general, it makes people feel good to know they've had a positive impact on someone's life.

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