I hope this helps at least somebody. Out of the people I have spoken with on the topic this seems to be a useful way for them to cope too. First of all I want to say I deeply feel for anyone suffering from or that even knows somebody close to them that has been abused, especially this way. It is so hard to move on with life afterwards and if you are anything like me, you may not think it will ever get better because the pain is too much. Every time I hear another story and sometimes just hear somebody ignorantly joking about the topic it brings back a lot of memories and often times anger along with them. I just want to share what has helped me and my family, especially more recently. It has been a couple of years for me since the last incident with this subject and I have multiple family members that have been victims of it. I felt like I would be doing them an injustice if I were to forgive anyone for what they did to them. Luckily, in other peoples lives I have seen them slowly recovering and getting some relief as time goes on and along with the help of loved ones and therapy. What seems to work best is sharing the story. It is never easy to do so but every time it is talked about and used to help somebody else that is suffering from the same thing it feels like it takes a little power away from what happened because then even such a tragic thing is being used in a positive way. It was 11 years before I first told somebody and the pain felt as real as it did right after it happened, but I was encouraged to share my experience with others and each time I would get closer to getting through it without breaking down. I didn't realize it before but keeping everything bottled up inside was chipping away at me over the years and I was constantly either numb or close to going into a rage about it. If you don't have somebody you have trusted with it irl yet, I would encourage you to post on here anonymously just to get it out. It is understandable nobody wants complete strangers knowing all their secrets but something like this is too much for anybody to keep to themselves. Know that you aren't alone with this and it certainly isn't your fault.