you deserve to suffer. The only people who deserve "tough love" (if you know what I mean by that) are condescending, egotistical people. But what don't condescending, egotistical people deserve that's bad and entails suffering? Anyway, if you think telling people "life sucks, get over it" or "show some balls" helps, you are encouraging a depressed person to feel WORSE. If you need to give somebody tough love, give a condescending egotist tough love. Tell that piece of trash "you've got flaws and are a disgrace of a human being, deal with it"! Give those people tough love and make them suffer!