i'm a virgin

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by virgin78, Aug 26, 2007.

  1. virgin78

    virgin78 New Member

    1'm 29 years old and still a virgin. i have battled social anxiety and depression most of my life. should i just give up trying? what woman is going to go out with a 29 year old virgin. this depresses the hell out of me.
     
  2. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    No, don't give up trying at all. Just because you are a virgin does not mean a woman wont date you. The women that are true will not judge you just because you haven't intimately been with one.
     
  3. Esmeralda

    Esmeralda Well-Known Member

    Try not to focus too much on your virginity...I know it seems like a big looming monster, but the fact that you have never had sex is not the sum total of who you are. Frankly, if I were dating right now, yes, I would find it odd, but also refreshing! With all the diseases and shit going around in this day and age, it is scary as hell to be dating now. I would prefer to date a virgin any day over someone who has had countless indiscretions. If YOU don't focus on this, then they probably won't either. Anyone who would judge you entirely based on this fact has some fucked up priorities anyway. Don't let your virginity define who you are. You are so much more than that. Get out of your own way and just be yourself, and be confident about who you are, and people will be drawn to you. You should definitely not give up.
     
  4. _nu

    _nu Well-Known Member

    some girls like us to have experience in the bed, and others dont care and even view that as "clean".... so i've heard
     
  5. jhayes0027

    jhayes0027 Well-Known Member

    I think you could be surprised by how many women out there wouldn't care about this at all. After the first time a lot of women would most likely just help or maybe tell you ways you could improve yourself if you even need to at all in the bed. But I wouldn't worry about being a virgin too much, I'm a virgin, doesn't bother me at all. Do I want to ahve sex, yes, am I really getting out there and trying too, no. But something like this shouldn't get you down, I think virginity is a sacred thing.
     
  6. Anime-Zodiac

    Anime-Zodiac Well-Known Member

    Like others have said, don't worry about being a virgin. And besides those who think any less of you for this reason are low.
     
  7. Hae-Gi

    Hae-Gi Banned Member

    Experience isn't based on how much sex one has had, but on knowledge. I also am male, 26 years old and I, too, am a virgin, but I know I know far more about sex than the very, very vast majority. Just read up on all that you need to know, and you will have confidence in yourself.

    I myself view virginity as a sacred thing... if I'd lose it to the wrong person, I would kill myself. I'd far rather die a virgin, than lose it to the wrong person. It's difficult, though, of course, since I am obsessed with sex... but I keep up hope on finding the right girl, someday... barely... :/
     

  8. Losing your virginity to the wrong person is an awful thing to have happen. I know for sure.
     
  9. Blackness

    Blackness Guest

    I hate to say it "but it's only sex"
    I'm a virgin too, even though im alot younger than you I'm happy to be a virgin.
    If I was to date you, you as a 29 yr old virgin I wouldnt care at all! in fact it's probably a good thing :)
    Don't worry and just be proud that you havent lost it to some random you never cared about.
     
  10. Hae-Gi

    Hae-Gi Banned Member

    It's definitely NOT only sex.

    Of course, I can't force you to change your mind... if only all would understand, though...
     
  11. Deathly Strike

    Deathly Strike Well-Known Member

    I'm a virgin too, it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's just a matter of waiting for the right person. Believe me, a girl would much rather have a virgin than some idiot who's gone round the block two or three times and is riddled with diseases.

    I'm waiting for the right girl.
     
  12. LostMyMind

    LostMyMind Well-Known Member

    I'm 25 and wish that I was still a virgin, I lost mine to the wrong person. Good luck finding the right person and don't feel bad that you're a virgin. That is actually a good thing despite how people act about it these days.
     
  13. reefer madness

    reefer madness Account Closed

    There's way more than one person in this world who would date any of you. Guaranteed. I was flipping through channels the other day and saw a show about a 1200 lb man. He had a girlfriend and hadn't even been out of his house in like 6 years.

    If you're that bummed about being a virgin and don't want to wait around for Mr./Ms. Right just get a hooker. There's no shame in paying for no-strings-attached sex.
     
  14. Isa

    Isa Well-Known Member

    a) Ive dated a 27 year old virgin


    b) lucky you.

    sorry, but being a virgin is better than being a rape victim or an abuse victim in my opinion..

    still hard to deal with though, but theres a (small) bright side for you.
     
  15. oddjob

    oddjob New Member

    I know exactly how you feel as I'm 24, a virgin and suffer from the same things.

    I personally think its so depressing and pathetic when you eventually realize that the only time you will ever get to have sex is when you pay for it.

    There comes a point in every mans life when using your right hand "to get your rocks off" just doesn't cut it anymore (you get so bored watching the same sort of porno's over and over again). - I know I want more than that, to actually have a woman who is really attracted to you, to touch her, cuddle her etc. Its just so much more appealing than your own hand or some women who you've paid to have sex with.
     
  16. $MyName

    $MyName Well-Known Member

    21 and the same, but I'm not fussed by it.

    Unlike a lot of guys out there, I'm in it for the love not the sex. I don't want to ever have sex without the feeling of being in love, it's just the way I am, if a woman couldn't respect that then that will be her problem and loss :)

    I don't have the looks, the confidence or the money etc to go chasing after women, and most of the women I'd find would be not at all close to the type I like, in fact in my 21 years of life I've only ever found one I'd say is truely 'my type', but if I die a virgin (pretty likely atm) then so be it, maybe I'll have missed out on a basic life experience for most, but I'd rather that then be one of those guys ust out there trying to get 'laid' every god damn night.
     
  17. wanttodie

    wanttodie Well-Known Member

    You know what buddy..I live in india where it's perfectly normal for people to remain virgin until their marriages. If you are not virgin, you are considered characterless and nobody is going to marry you. However, it's ok to be a hypocrite and have sex with with prostitutes behind closed doors but in front of the society you must pose as a saint. It's the exact opposite in west. I just don't know why people are so fucked up everywhere. Is there anyone normal ?? Everyone seems to be on extremes.
     
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  18. brainstorm

    brainstorm Well-Known Member

    Hey, join the club. I'm 30 and a virgin too.

    How much of a virgin are you?

    Sex, but not sleeping together?
    Petting, fonding, but no sex?
    Kissing, Hugging, no Fondling?
    No kissing?
    No holding hands?

    Me, I'm definitely in the no-hand-holding corner trimming my fingernails...
     
  19. jolie

    jolie Member

    Can I date you?
     
  20. Beret

    Beret Staff Alumni

    Nth wrong with being 29 and still a virgin...
    :hug:
    Beret xxx