Every wants to have a romantic relationship, and I'm no exception. People tend to seek relationships from people who they are attracted to, and with similar backgrounds. I feel that I am expected to be an exception to this rule. When you are a man, you have to make the first move. I don't "hit" on women really overweight women or women with kids, so I am a "jerk." I diet and exercise and am in really good shape, and I just am not attracted to really overweight women, so I'm a jerk. I'm a virgin. I know I'm never going to find a women who "waited" for me, like I did for them, and I have come to terms with this. But I am not really eager to take care of another man's child. If I did pursue overweight women or women with kids, then I'd really be considered a jerk. Fact is, very few men do pursue those women, so if I pursued them, I'd just be taking advantage of that fact, hoping that they are desperate enough to answer me. I realize that many overweight women and single mothers are great people. And it's not like I totally snub them. I have answered messages on online dating sites from some obese women, and I started to develop a friendship with a single mother in college. But none of this went anywhere. Am I supposed to change what I am attracted to? Is this possible? If I tried to be attracted women that are unpopular with men, would that be right? Wouldn't I just be taking advantage of the fact that they are willing to "settle" for me. I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place, and the rock is starting to crush me.