I realized i needed to talk about this after the topic came out on a recent thread i saw.
I usually watch some youtube videos on the suicide topic, you know, the usual PG stuff: suicide attempt survivors, people who lost a loved one to suicide, how to spot a suicidal person, etc. In the comment section you're most likely to read comments of people saying they feel suicidal, depressed, not wanting to live anymore, which obviously i can relate to, and 99.9% of the time, there's some random people saying the same, old, rutinary phrases:
"i dont know you, but trust me: it gets better" "whatever you're going through, it will pass soon" "everything is gonna be alright before you even notice"
I mean, i understand what you're trying to do, but those overused, stereotypical, lifeless, illogical and, honestly, patronizing phrases really dont help. It kind of feels you're minimizing someone else's suffering and pain by giving them a pat on the back. Baseless optimism really makes me angry and usually makes things worse, cause it feels like a barrier people build up between you and them so they dont have to actually listen to what you have to say...you know, that one thing that might actually help a little.
Obviously it doesnt happen only on Youtube, but you get the general picture, sorry if i come off as rude or "ungrateful", i actually get the point they're trying to reach, but, at least for me, it's not helping, it has never helped me, and i guess that's one of the reason many suicidal people dont talk about it openly...we want to be heard/read, we want some advice if necessary, but please, dont come up with stuff that you cant guarantee.
I usually watch some youtube videos on the suicide topic, you know, the usual PG stuff: suicide attempt survivors, people who lost a loved one to suicide, how to spot a suicidal person, etc. In the comment section you're most likely to read comments of people saying they feel suicidal, depressed, not wanting to live anymore, which obviously i can relate to, and 99.9% of the time, there's some random people saying the same, old, rutinary phrases:
"i dont know you, but trust me: it gets better" "whatever you're going through, it will pass soon" "everything is gonna be alright before you even notice"
I mean, i understand what you're trying to do, but those overused, stereotypical, lifeless, illogical and, honestly, patronizing phrases really dont help. It kind of feels you're minimizing someone else's suffering and pain by giving them a pat on the back. Baseless optimism really makes me angry and usually makes things worse, cause it feels like a barrier people build up between you and them so they dont have to actually listen to what you have to say...you know, that one thing that might actually help a little.
Obviously it doesnt happen only on Youtube, but you get the general picture, sorry if i come off as rude or "ungrateful", i actually get the point they're trying to reach, but, at least for me, it's not helping, it has never helped me, and i guess that's one of the reason many suicidal people dont talk about it openly...we want to be heard/read, we want some advice if necessary, but please, dont come up with stuff that you cant guarantee.