I just cannot take reading these messages anymore from people who are sooooo willing to give up on life. Life is about FACING your challenges, your pain, combating your fears, growing from them and moving on. Period! I am not referring to everybody. These people know who they are. YES we all have problems, depression, mental ailments. SOME things we feel are out of our control, a lot of the time this can be treated with medication. A chemical imbalance can be treated with the RIGHT medication. Problems can be treated by facing them not running from them. It irks me when people come in here and say "Okay I've set a date" What the F**k? Do you think we REALLY want to know that? most of the people in here are already depressed, they don't want to hear that someone has set a date to kill themselves. Deal with it! come in here for support, advice, and clear your chest, but to tell people you are about to kill yourself? Call the frigging police, get the help you obviously need. I'm sick of hearing it. I'm sick of people saying they are going to kill themselves because their boy or girlfriend has split up with them and they are heartbroken....Yes, this is life, billions of people have their heart broken. They get over it! It's about feeding your soul with good and bad, you have to experience pain in order to grow. I get that your world has come to an end, been there done that, It is a horrible feeling. If you believe in destiny then you must surely know that it wasn't meant to be and there is someone else for you. Nobody said life is easy. It is not meant to be easy, when are you going to get that? There are things in this world we have to go through which ultimately make us stronger, wiser individuals. Some of you seem to take life for granted. Some of you seem to think that it is okay to kill yourself, well it is not. Get a grip, work on your pain and stop running from everything. Stop blaming others for how you feel. It's not them it's you. Change your thought process, change your life if you have to in order to become happy again. There are ways in which to overcome, but you have to want to, and if you do, take on that battle and conquer it. Stop the self pity and say to yourself "Okay I am not going to let this bring me down. I am not going to let this get the better of me, I am stronger than that. I am not giving in to this!". I understand that some people don't want to be helped, but those that do, you can help yourself, but nobody can do that but YOU. Others can guide you and advise you, but it is you who determines the life you are living. How do I know what I am talking about? well, I have studied psychology for 20 odd years. As a kid I was abused. In my teens through my twenties, I suffered with Social Anxiety Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, very low self esteem. I was raped at aged 24. I suffered for years because of abuse from my father. I was unloved as a child. My mother was a manic depressive, my father was a demanding, patronizing SOB who made me feel I was worthless my whole life. Was kicked out at 16 with nowhere to go. I became homeless, living in my car, then had my car repossessed, filed bankruptcy, had my hear broken three times, was kicked out of three more of my homes in my thirties since none of them belonged to me. Had everything I ever owned thrown in a trash can never to be seen again. Lived with a psychotic person who tried to kill me, and took more abuse. Attempted suicide because I never got the help I needed. Lived much of my life in pain because I never received treatment. Stayed in the mental home after my suicide attempt and finally got the meds and guidance I needed. Lost both of my parents to cancer. Never got to see or say goodbye to either one of them. Was living in an abyss for years and years, in intense emotional pain and depression. Well that's SOME of it. Yeah I had a friggin shitty effed up life too, which is why I want to say "My life is great now! I finally have a home, someone who loves me and vice versa". I am glad I did not die because the rest of this life will be great for me. I have grown through this pain because I confronted all of it in the end. I confronted my dad who admitted he loved my sister more than me, I always knew this of course, but to have him tell me "Yes I do" Well I forgave him because he had a fucked up childhood too, which is why he took his crap out on me, he never got help either. If your life seems bad now, there is light if you work through it. Don't wait as long as I did! It doesn't have to be a shitty life. Adious, and good luck to those who want to help themselves. Be brave, and strong.