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I'm stuck and can't move

#1
Help I have this terrible feeling. I'm stuck all day in bed and I can't move. I feel comfortable in my bed and safe. I haven't been outside the house in two weeks. I don't go out because I have terrible anxiety. I need help to restart my life and get back on track. I know I sound pathetic and lazy. I just can't help the way I feel. I wish that things were different for me. I have lost all my friends because I don't go out with them anymore. This has caused me to feel helpless and worthless. I can't tell anyone how I really feel for fear that they will laugh at me. I should be stronger but I am not. I should be able to handle all my emotions and be able to interact with others. I think others are judging me and laughing at me. I have Major Depression and anxiety and I get panic attacks. I just want to be able to get up in the morning and not worry about anything. Simple tasks are so difficult. Please help me
 
#2
Sorry that you're going through this Anne

Maybe you could just get out of bed and do some light stretching or calisthenics, then go back to bed if you still feel like it.

Hugs
 

BlueGreen

Well-Known Member
#3
Sorry to hear what you are going through Anne. You are definitely not lazy! Maybe try getting out of bed with your duvet and sit somewhere different in the house? Or try doing small exercises in bed, or keep a journal and write in bed. I'm not sure what to suggest but some small things that can be done maybe in the bed that will give you some positive feeling? Your bed and your house is your safe place so I'm thinking, just go easy on yourself, don't push yourself to do anything you can't or don't want to but in your own space, try and make small positive changes or actions. Even if you stay in bed, you can write here and find support. Maybe in time you will find people aren't judging as much as you think - and if they are, you don't need that negativity in your life. Be kind to yourself, you are stronger than you know. *hug
 
#4
Sorry to hear what you are going through Anne. You are definitely not lazy! Maybe try getting out of bed with your duvet and sit somewhere different in the house? Or try doing small exercises in bed, or keep a journal and write in bed. I'm not sure what to suggest but some small things that can be done maybe in the bed that will give you some positive feeling? Your bed and your house is your safe place so I'm thinking, just go easy on yourself, don't push yourself to do anything you can't or don't want to but in your own space, try and make small positive changes or actions. Even if you stay in bed, you can write here and find support. Maybe in time you will find people aren't judging as much as you think - and if they are, you don't need that negativity in your life. Be kind to yourself, you are stronger than you know. *hug
Sorry that you're going through this Anne

Maybe you could just get out of bed and do some light stretching or calisthenics, then go back to bed if you still feel like it.

Hugs
Sorry that you're going through this Anne

Maybe you could just get out of bed and do some light stretching or calisthenics, then go back to bed if you still feel like it.

Hugs
I appreciate the support. I'm just having a difficult few days. I hope that my mood will improve. Part of the problem is I lost my friend and she might never get back to me. She stopped texting me and has cut me off for some reason
 

BlueGreen

Well-Known Member
#5
People can be so unreliable and just disappear when you need them most. Don't blame yourself. Maybe she has her own issues too and maybe she'll just come back like nothing happened. It's so hard to know, sometimes it's best not to try and analyse but work on your own needs. It really hurts when friends do this. *console
 
#6
Yeah she the type of friend that comes and goes. She always seems to blame me for the fall out. I just don't seem to have that much in common with her anymore too. I am friendless now. I only have my husband. We keep to ourselves. I find it difficult letting people into my circle of friends.
 

ib4uib

Well-Known Member
#7
Help I have this terrible feeling. I'm stuck all day in bed and I can't move. I feel comfortable in my bed and safe. I haven't been outside the house in two weeks. I don't go out because I have terrible anxiety. I need help to restart my life and get back on track. I know I sound pathetic and lazy. I just can't help the way I feel. I wish that things were different for me. I have lost all my friends because I don't go out with them anymore. This has caused me to feel helpless and worthless. I can't tell anyone how I really feel for fear that they will laugh at me. I should be stronger but I am not. I should be able to handle all my emotions and be able to interact with others. I think others are judging me and laughing at me. I have Major Depression and anxiety and I get panic attacks. I just want to be able to get up in the morning and not worry about anything. Simple tasks are so difficult. Please help me
First of all it's ok to stay in bed, if you feel comfortable and safe there then don't let this play on your mind. Use the time to write stuff down when you're awake. Step right outside of your normal thinking patterns of worrying about lost friends, worthlessness, helplessness etc. You do understand thinking about all these things all the time is what's causing the problem right? It's the main ingredient for anxiety, I mean this thinking pattern feeds the anxiety, it's like when a child rolls a snowball in the snow, that snowball soon becomes so big you don't have the strength to push it any more.

Write down stuff you used to enjoy as a child, go right back to as far as you can remember. Perhaps at 5 years old you enjoyed riding your bike along a certain path, or perhaps you collected leaves from trees and traced them with a pencil through paper. I'm just giving you examples but you'll know what you enjoyed. Even if it was a birthday party or Xmas event write everything down.
Then as you start to remember things you enjoyed as a child, write down all the things you enjoyed as you got older. Do NOT write down anything that bothered you, just write down all the things you enjoyed!

It's ok to stay in bed and do this all day long, it's positive, stops you going over the same old things in your mind which IS feeding the anxiety. You will find like magic things appear on this list you write which will remind you of positive things in the past. These are the things to focus on for the future, and that's the starting point, instead of getting up and following old routines you could get up and start a new routine. Even if that means buying a spacehopper and bouncing down the street, if you enjoyed it once before, then their is nothing to stop you enjoying it again.

It's not the end laying in bed, it's a new beginning. Just got to try and lQQk at it all differently.

So tomorrow and as long as it takes ahead, stay safe and comfortable in bed, but just write that list!
 

ib4uib

Well-Known Member
#9
I hope you give it a try.
And remember though, you might feel really negative at the moment it's all about how you position things in your mind. Take your friends for example and what you wrote in your opening post
I have lost all my friends because I don't go out with them anymore
If friends are not there when you finally do manage to get out again then I'm afraid they weren't really friends in the first place, they were acquaintances. This is the point in your life where you will find out who your real friends are, or it could be the case you will find your true friends later in life.

Just try and stop beating yourself down, laying in bed all day is ok , maybe open the curtains though in the daytime and close them again at night. It will only be a few footsteps out of bed to do this! Listen to motivational music, not sad stuff that also keeps you in the down zone...

And write that list!

 

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