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Im Worried

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by just_me_again, Mar 3, 2018.

  1. just_me_again

    just_me_again Well-Known Member

    Recently, things have been going pretty okay. It turns out I'll get to graduate in a year and then will be able to move and find a job. The problem is, my boyfriend doesn't want to talk about it. I try to bring things up casually, but he has no interest in discussing or saving for the future. I'm worried that my graduation date will also be our expiration date. I really don't want that for us. I love him and he's improved my quality of life so much but what if we are supposed to go in different directions?
  2. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    Do you have any ideas about why he's behaving like this?
  3. just_me_again

    just_me_again Well-Known Member

    I have no clue other than maybe he’s scared?
  4. DrownedFishOnFire

    DrownedFishOnFire Seeing is Believing Forum Pro SF Supporter

    What is his position in his life? Is he still in school or already working?
  5. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    I wonder if maybe he thinks that once you graduate, you'll be the one that wants to move on from him?

    Do you tell him this? Does he say this to you?

    What do you mean by this?
  6. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    This was my initial thought too. I think you should have a heart to heart with him and let him know what's bothering you. Your life is too precious to throw away over this. You could even think a lot differently a year down the line :) Best wishes x
    may71 likes this.
  7. just_me_again

    just_me_again Well-Known Member

    I talked to him. We've said we've loved each other multiple times for the past few months and he said that he was scared that I would decide to leave him or that I'd outgrow him. We've made plans to move together after we graduate so that he can find a new job/go to a school with the major he wants and I can find a job in my field and possibly further my education. I guess talking things out is the best way to do things.
  8. sassy123

    sassy123 SF hugger Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hugs glad talking has helped good luck with your move I hope it all works out.
  9. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Yay for a good result, glad things worked out for you, happy for you, now no more worrying darling x