Insecure? Poor Self Esteem? How to take steps to fight it.

[LetItGo]

Man im a SAD FUCKING INSECURE SACK OF SHIT at times. There ya go, the truth is out there! and I dont want to believe, I DO BELIEVE!

...and thats the problem.

How to fight this belief, the belief that you're not worthy of something or someone? the belief that failure is guaranteed? the belief that doing nothing and waiting on the inevitable pain, is somehow better than taking action to avoid it? This insecurity not only attacks your relationships with other people, it kills your drive, your desire for self improvement, your ability to do the most simple things - like make a fucking phone call, go out the window.

I really want to believe that I can be an interesting person, a desirable person to be with, but my insecurity and pathetic self esteem, makes me boring, makes me poison to be around at times. I want something that doesnt exist, in both my personal life, and my professional life - a guaranteed win. I cant take any more /epic fails and the really evil thing is, the fucking backstabbing gremlin with the butter knife that is "my insecurity" makes failure the only outcome possible.

Its a cruel world.

 

[Shauna Lea]

"How to fight this belief, the belief that you're not worthy of something or someone? the belief that failure is guaranteed?" Prove otherwise. Not as easy as it sounds but it's certainly possible. We are all here to help you so make use of that priviledge - not everyone is lucky enough!

 

[Stranger1]

You have to stop trying to be a failure. As long as you keep trying you will have both negative and positive thoughts. The trick is to learn to kick the negative thoughts ass and then replace it with a positive thought. Think of it as a bank, you store the positive thoughts in the bank and when you have a negative thought you make a withdrawl and apply it. I hope this makes a little sence to you because once you get the hang of it, then it becomes easier everytime you use it.The thoughts can be just about anything from I got out of bed, to I helped somone today and that makes me feel good. They are up to you because we can't fill in the blanks for you. Take Care.

 

[Colourful]

I totally agree with the poster above, think positively - that's a very important step to building your self-esteem. Think of all the good qualities and everything you do like about yourself and focus on those, rather on the thoughts that make you feel insecure and worthless. Push yourself, you need to overcome your fears if you are to start feeling more secure within yourself.
I'm on the same boat as you, and thinking positively does help.

All the best xx

 

[darkrider]

Small things help my self esteem. Kids smiling at me, people seeming interested when I 'chit chat' with them, girls looking at me, even doing simple mundane things people don't think twice about.

 

[yanke]

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -- over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

 

[colt45]

I do not have much confidnence in myself, because I feel smaller to everyone I know.

I am so self conscious of myself that I feel insecure around girls.