So I belong to a group where people have accidentally caused the death of another human being (my event requiring self forgiveness was not that serious). Anyways, all of these folks struggle with forgiving themselves..some for many years. One was not an accidental death but as the result of driving drunk. So a pastor, who hi,self,caused,an accidental death, spoke last night and said, ‘yes, you may have done something intentional, but you didn’t intentionally mean it to hurt someone‘....that defined me and what I did as what I now refer to as my bipolar moment. It helped me a little...I just to now digest it.