Is "have I met you before at x" a flirting attempt?

Discussion in 'The Coffee House' started by Khvde, Jul 29, 2016.

  1. Khvde

    Khvde Well-Known Member

    Hi. Guys too often ask me if they met me at x place or something.
    Does this mean I have a very common face (I am not sure what makes a face "common face") or is it an attempt of flirting?

    I feel so weird when guys whom I don't know ask me if they met me before. I am not very social so I am not good at picking up social clues. Also I am homo flexible (I am in the closet about being homo flexible) so I cant really say I like men.
     
  2. Brittless

    Brittless On Leave

    Seems like a flirting attempt to me. :)
     
  3. Louise K

    Louise K Active Member

    Flirting. I sometimes see someone I think I recognise only on saying "Hi" to them I find out they are not the person I thought. I am sure they then think I am flirting. Human nature I reckon Derya
     
  4. Khvde

    Khvde Well-Known Member

    Thanks for answering because I am not very social and when guys insist that they know me from x or that they saw me at x, I just be like, "Who are these strangers and why dont I know them but they know me?
    Also if a girl would tell me that she knows me, I would like that. But when a guy does that I just feel like, "Who is this guy, should I worry?"
     
  5. SinisterKid

    SinisterKid Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I have a terrible memory for names, but I have a very good memory for faces. Yeah, weird I know. I often see people I know I have seen or met before, I just cant remember their names very often. So if [big IF] I were to instigate a conversation, I would most likely say something along the lines of, "Dont I know you, have we met before"? "I am sorry, I know you but I cant remember your name".

    Its not a flirt, its a genuine interest in someone I am sure I have met/known at some time previous. But then again, I am a old bugga, so flirting is a game I am probably past playing anyway, so what would I know ;)
     
  6. Khvde

    Khvde Well-Known Member

    But you are talking about people whose names you can't remember, so you have a familiarity with this people.
    If I had known a person's name but I had forgotten, I would ask kindly, too.
    Those guys who ask me questions like that are either strangers or very close to strangers so it gets weird for me.
     
  7. SinisterKid

    SinisterKid Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Nah, sometimes I get it wrong and it is a total stranger.
     
  8. Brittless

    Brittless On Leave

    Hmm, I think it could go both ways to be honest, but if it is happening a lot from guys around your same age range I'd say it's possible it's flirting. That's a common line imo and experience. lol.
     
  9. Khvde

    Khvde Well-Known Member


    Maybe I have a very common face and maybe guys generally think that they know me. It is just that it kinda gets creepy when strangers too oftenly act like they know me and those strangers are mainly guys and I am a woman.
     
  10. Khvde

    Khvde Well-Known Member


    Maybe I have a common face. Maybe people really think they know me.
     
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  11. Brittless

    Brittless On Leave

    I do not.
     
  12. Khvde

    Khvde Well-Known Member

    People usually have brown hair-brown eyes-olive or dark olive skin trio here. So I share this features with most people. So I thought maybe I have a common face.
     
  13. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Please no sharing of personal picture here. It is against the sites guidelines.
     
  14. Khvde

    Khvde Well-Known Member

    Thanks. :)
     
  15. DrownedFishOnFire

    DrownedFishOnFire Quieta non movere

    Idk what to say but sometimes its a ice breaker for people to start a converstation with someone they're interested in getting to know trying to strike a common ground.