Is it normal?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Mooacow, Mar 14, 2010.

  1. Mooacow

    Mooacow Member

    Two years ago I met a girl, who quickly became a friend of mine. She was seeing a guy, and I used to hang around them a lot.

    After around a few months i kinda developed feelings... for both of them. I think I got kinda weird around them, and they stopped hanging around me (heh, seems to happen often).

    I saw them a few months back; they were even nice enough to invite me over, even if it was out of obligation alone. Both still stunning as ever.

    Is that... normal?
  2. Scum

    Scum Well-Known Member

    I'm not sure what part you are asking about. I don't see anything wrong in that post at all. What you described is pretty common, I would imagine, even if some of it you don't understand yourself.

    Everyone has a different normal.
  3. CAD

    CAD Well-Known Member

    So you are saying you are bi-sexual? Bi-sexuality is as natural as women giving birth. Men in ancient Athens, for example, commonly had boyfriends as well as a wife. Luckily for you, we live in an enlightened age where you could choose to have a husband or a wife. Perhaps a husband and a wife (if they consent)? I can see lots of possibilities in this!
  4. Tray

    Tray Well-Known Member

    i dont see much wrong with it. but i suppose they just wanted some space.
  5. mcviking

    mcviking Well-Known Member

    IF you feel that your sexual preference is deviant I would say I wouldn't worry about that. Being attracted to both sexes is somewhat normal. Most people are attracted to both genders at some point in their lives. However, since they are in a relationship together, and could feel that sexual tension, is probably why they distanced themselves. Just realize they are both off limits and just enjoy their company. Or if that's really your thing (wanting to be in a three way relationship) you could find it if you seek it out. However I can't see those relationships working out to well. Jealousy is bound to go rampant.
  6. Mooacow

    Mooacow Member

    I can understand them distancing from me, but I was just wondering about my sexuality in general. I didn't really find a man attractive until that point.

    There's a little more in details, but I don't want to break anyone's trust in mentioning specifics.

    I guess 'normal' isn't the right word. I was probably just caught up in the moment, like always... =(
  7. Scum

    Scum Well-Known Member

    I think sexuality is often malleable and moving and also, on a scale of black and white with homosexuality and heterosexuality, there are all shades of grey in the middle, and someone being just black or white with their sexuality is very unusual.

    It may be you found him attractive, or you felt that the pair of them together were attractive (sort of like male/female porn), or anything really.