is it, was it?

Discussion in 'Rape and Abuse' started by frozenprince, Nov 6, 2009.

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  1. frozenprince

    frozenprince Active Member

    My first and only boyfriend, well he abused me, he beat me and treated me like shit, just cause were a gay couple doesn't meen there can't be abuse.

    but anyway thats not what im asking, when we were together, when he wanted sex he just took it, even if I didn't want to, I would always eventually just give in but sometimes would say or even scream no and fight back. He TOOK my virginity, I never gave it to him.

    and I get conflicting things from people I talk to, that he couldn't have raped me because, gays don't get raped or, we were dating or, I eventually said yes anyway.

    I'v never gotten a clear answer from anybody so I figured id ask here.

    did he rape me?
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    YES clearly yes you said no if a husband forces a wife it is rape NO is No
  3. Acy

    Acy Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense Staff Member Safety & Support

    And it has nothing to do with straight, gay, lesbian, has to do with being "forced" when you've said no.

    I'm sorry to hear about how you were treated. :hug:
  4. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    i hope you have some support and i am sorry to for what happened I hope he gets whats coming to him.
  5. DrivEthermissIon

    DrivEthermissIon Banned Member

    It's okay

    That's really horrible. I'm here if you need me, I'm on quite a lot.

  6. ilovedilostwhatnow

    ilovedilostwhatnow Active Member

    that is rape hun
  7. Lady Byron

    Lady Byron Well-Known Member

    yea. it doesn't matter if someone is gay, just like someone above posted, no is no. i'm so sorry :hug: send a pm my way if you ever need someone to listen.
  8. Emptysoul

    Emptysoul Well-Known Member

    Yes gay people can get raped, ive been through it myself
  9. wheresmysheep

    wheresmysheep Staff Alumni

    as others have said it doesnt matter about your orientation. if you say no it means no. so, sadly, yes you were raped.
    dont let this rule your life tho
  10. xXWhateverItTakesXx

    xXWhateverItTakesXx Forum Buddy

    Yes, it's is when someone does it without your consent, no matter if you straight or gay.

    I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. You are in my thoughts :hug: xx
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