I just have been coming to a conclusion that my self care efforts are mostly in vain. I am pretty much dressing nicely and putting on makeup for no one to impress (and have been for awhile). My now ex-partner never noticed or cared how I dressed or complimented me, so I don't know why I bothered? I want to take care of myself for me, and because I want to feel healthy. I don't want attention, I just want people to want to get to know me and not worry about the clothes I wear or makeup, but see what is within that exterior. I feel like I use clothes and makeup as a front to not look too approachable. In other words, I dress 'out of my league' for a socially anxious, loner female. I don't know why I bother, because it never makes me feel confident and I don't gain anything out of doing this 'girly' stuff. I'm probably going to start being lower maintenance from now on cause it's too expensive to look impressive for no one that matters. I have wasted soo much money on clothes, accessories, shoes, blah blah blah just to 'fit in' when I don't even go out. So I guess I mean, I'm going to give up buying nicer, more expensive clothes, accessories or makeup because I'm truly frustrated that throughout my whole relationship, it never seemed to matter, he rarely even looked at me. So Do you care much about the way you look to others? Or How do you stay motivated when no one else seems to care?