I'm asking just trying to learn how to help myself not see life as a failure. Growing up as a little kid I had one single goal in life; to become an astronaut. That didn't pan out and it didn't really affect.me that much but it was quite a goal driving me to science, fitness, medicine and other things in support of a goal.
I'm asking about this because there are so many other things in life that being me down mentally and emotionally. An example (not mine) would be "I want to be president of the US and nothing else will do or I am a failure. If that person doesn't get to be president is their only choice simply to reset the goal in their mind to be ok if they are not.
I have so much trouble because I want so many things as accomplishments; writing, business, my family and kids, retirement, travel, mountains to climb, things to learn, books to read, and things to build. I find at the end of a given day I'm typically down about all the things I didn't accomplish and frustrated that the family and friends around me didn't understand my desire to finish those things.
I ran four marathons before realizing that my body, frame and football muscles make it very hard to become good at running marathons so no matter what I tried I could never accomplish what the scrawny anorexic looking runners did and every time I was completely disappointed by the whole event.
I am curious because i face this all the time; the expectations that I will do well and setting a very high bar. I never consider what I do to be an accomplishment for me personally.
I'm asking about this because there are so many other things in life that being me down mentally and emotionally. An example (not mine) would be "I want to be president of the US and nothing else will do or I am a failure. If that person doesn't get to be president is their only choice simply to reset the goal in their mind to be ok if they are not.
I have so much trouble because I want so many things as accomplishments; writing, business, my family and kids, retirement, travel, mountains to climb, things to learn, books to read, and things to build. I find at the end of a given day I'm typically down about all the things I didn't accomplish and frustrated that the family and friends around me didn't understand my desire to finish those things.
I ran four marathons before realizing that my body, frame and football muscles make it very hard to become good at running marathons so no matter what I tried I could never accomplish what the scrawny anorexic looking runners did and every time I was completely disappointed by the whole event.
I am curious because i face this all the time; the expectations that I will do well and setting a very high bar. I never consider what I do to be an accomplishment for me personally.