Ok, well before I say anything, I think self poisoning IS bad, even if it is without suicidal intent, cos it is SO dangerous. And I think self mutilation leading to severe blood loss is also bad - again, very dangerous plus high risk of infection. However, superficial cutting, or doing what I do - burining myself with the edge of an iron, I personally dont believe that is bad. I mean a superficial burn to skin is FAR less damaging than the damage that alcohol does to your liver (many people go out with friends and get drunk after a hard day right?), plus you dont wake up with a hangover. And a superficial burn does much less damage to your body than stress does. I mean all you have damaged is a bit of skin, thats it. Stress affects almost every organ in your body, leaves you lacking sleep, not performing as well at work and can in the long term lead to heart disease etc. So, I dont think self harm (when done the right way) is a bad way of coping. You just gotta be careful where you do it. I do it on my shoulders cos then I can still wear short sleeved tops. And I hate totally sleeveless tops anyway, they dont suit me. I like swimming, but I always go at a time when I am unlikely to see anyone I know. If I do I just make sure to keep my shoulders under the water and appear relaxed and normal, so people are unlikely to expect that the burns are self inflicted.