How we have to ask other people if what happened to us was, in fact, rape? I feel like, its, I don't know the word for it, it seems like most the posts in this forum are "is this rape?" and I know I for one, had to ask others if I was really raped, and when I look back I see how it was obvious, but I was so traumatized my brain couldnt function. maybe this is why most rapes go unreported. iono. it was just a thought, and it makes me sad that we actually get so traumatized that we cant even figure out if what happened to us was really rape.