It can be frustrating....

Discussion in 'Positive Feelings and Motivational Messages' started by meaningless-vessel, Jul 3, 2012.

  1. meaningless-vessel

    meaningless-vessel Well-Known Member

    But... This is hopefully going to be motivational to some.

    Do you ever feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel? Share the problem with someone - they say its a cliche, but its a useful saying too - a problem shared is a problem halved.

    Do you ever feel that no-one wants to listen? If need be, PM me, but I will look to ask what the situation is like. Above all, you'll need to be completely honest. Not necessarily to me, but to yourself.

    Many of you have situations that can be resolved if handled sensibly. Logically, certain things will take a lot longer than others to recover from, as will those who've experienced more. It will take time, patience, and constant string of positive options. If needed, I can help - but the overall thing is, you will need to help yourselves. Yes it's not designed to be easy, but life isn't easy, or fair, for the majority of people - even those without any ideations.

    Also bear in mind, that its not always others that are useless, therapists aren't allowed to - in the uk - suggest what to do. Peer to peer support, and networking with people on here, can come up with these suggestions. I'm currently assisting one myself, while i'm on the road to recovery - I can't bear too much of a load myself, but I can come up with ideas on how to tackle a problem. I'm not the best, I don't claim to be so, but analysing the situation, and seeing what can be changed, and finding self-discipline, self-control, and having a grip on your own life, could be the start of a road to recovery. If you're with a partner who is 2 faced - one person when with others, and a different one behind closed doors, see what time away from them is like (as an example)

    These things can work. They may take a lot of effort, but the end rewards are a healthier base/happier, more relaxed/comfortable person. We are all human, we all have flaws, and we are all going to make mistakes. There aren't many that wouldn't deserve the right to be treated as a person, even a one time criminal who got labelled for one thing and gets judged as such even when they've turned their lives around, would be entitled to a second chance - but when the going gets tough, don't give in. Give in and the situations won't change.

    Its a mental toughness, rather like that which personal trainers use in gyms. Your mind wants your body to stop, but its pushing through that barrier because there is often more that can be done.

    One final thought to leave you with. A little quote that is a very useful one when seeking support.

    Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind.
  2. triedtoomanytimes

    triedtoomanytimes Well-Known Member

    'Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind.'

    So so true.
  3. TheLoneWolf

    TheLoneWolf Well-Known Member

    Yep, the things you say are true.

    Personally, I think I may finally be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I won't know for sure until I get there. It could just be a sign indicating the start of another tunnel, lol. Not to sound pessimistic, but that's usually how things work for me... out of the pot and into the frying pan. Well, regardless, I've got to take a chance on something, anything that seems like it could help. If it turns out to be just another mirage on the horizon, so be it. At least I can say that I tried. It's not going to be easy to get there, but like you said - life rarely is easy. The last time I tried to take the easy route, I found myself in another cage. This time I'm going to have to risk it all and throw caution to the wind. Both the possible risks and rewards will be life changing... but then, you know what they say, if what you're doing isn't working, CHANGE IT.
  4. meaningless-vessel

    meaningless-vessel Well-Known Member

    It's pleasing to see responses. Most of what I've put I've picked up from being on this site, or advice from others to me.
  5. red ribbons

    red ribbons Well-Known Member

    YES! I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel in this economy and after being financially ruined. I feel stuck, like there is no way out.
  6. meaningless-vessel

    meaningless-vessel Well-Known Member

    I'm financially stuck, but I managed to keep a job I was in danger of losing. I even found this job a few months into the recession when it was first noted in 2008........ but it didn't take me long to find.

    And hopefully with a head screwed on a bit more now, i'll think first.