Social anxiety is a pretty big problem for me. yeah yeah i know that "you shouldn't care what other people think about you!" and i dont, in a sense, but i still lack that 'thing' that most other people have with being social. i mean, if someone doesn't like me, then fuck them. i dont care. but otherwise, i always have trouble making friends. how can i be myself, and not care what other people think, and still be friendly? it's weird. when someone says something to me, i feel that i HAVE to say something back, because it doesnt make me an asshole, and i dont want to be an asshole to most people. i want to be a guy that other people want to be friends with. sometimes i want to be the life of the party. wtf is wrong with me? i'm not confident enough? how do i become more confident? whenever i'm outspoken, it's either because i'm drunk, know a lot about the subject of conversation (normally computers, which means that i make nerdy friends :laugh: ), or i feel like i'm just a big fake. people have told me "you need to be more social". well how do i do that? just say whatever comes to my head? i've tried that and all i get is gibberish!