It hurts

Discussion in 'Grief and Bereavement' started by LiverpoolFTW, Jul 21, 2007.

  1. LiverpoolFTW

    LiverpoolFTW Guest

    I had a girlfriend commit suicide. It was 6 years ago now. But it still hurts, i could cry now if i let myself. The pain never goes away.

    And i'm here wanting to be dead myself, and feeling guilty for the pain i'd inflict on my family.
     
  2. ace

    ace Well-Known Member

    LivFTW,I'm deeply sorry to hear what happened to your girlfriend mate try to take thing's easy and calm down if you can and relax as much as you can.If you would like to talk I'm here and I have msn Milansteve@yahoo.com.au I'm here anytime you need try to take thing's as slow as possible.
     
  3. LiverpoolFTW

    LiverpoolFTW Guest

    Thanks. I don't feel quite so bad now. I'm gonna go the pub and get drunk. I wont feel anything that way.
     
  4. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    Living with and facing the death of a loved one is hard. When you combine that with the death being a suicide it seems so many questions remain unanswered. Often time we tend to blame ourselves because we didn't recognize the signs or we didn't stop it. Although these feelings are normal, they are not true. You can't stop the way you feel, but you can change the thought process that makes you feel that way. No one makes the choice of suicide but the person that does it. In the end, no matter what we do or don't do, the choice still lies in their hands. You are in no way responsible for the choices she made. Those survivng are left at home to grieve and feel the pain and the emptiness that is now left in your life. You need to find a way to be a peace with her death. Maybe start a tradition in her memory. Think of all the happy times you had together and when you start thinking negative things replace it with one of those happy times. Eventually you will not have the sad thoughts as often. They never go away because we mourn for ourselves at the loss of someone we loved, but the severity and length of time lessens. Please don't follow in her footsteps. Your family needs you. :hug:
     
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  5. liveinhope

    liveinhope Well-Known Member

    I had a close friend that committed suicide 20 years ago she was 25 the pain will never go and the questions will sadly always remain unanswered but i to believe that people ultimately have choice and no matter how hard we try or how much we care we will never have the power to stop any person intent on leaving us we have to somehow find a way to accept that this was where they wanted to be for many reasons and try to remember them for the good times and laughter that they may have brought to our lives. We will always be sad that they left:sad:
     
  6. blade

    blade Well-Known Member

    awww hun i feel sorry for u :(
    really sorry what uve been through... i understand the what ur going through...
    im always here if u need me ....
    anytime at all...
    afiolagy@hotmail.com
     
  7. LiverpoolFTW

    LiverpoolFTW Guest

    Thanks for your kind words and advice, the feeling of loss comes and goes but i doubt it'll ever go away completely. I wish i had the energy to write more...