keeping it inside so no one else has to deal with it." I've learned this from many times of thinking in my life. I have many times to be alone in silence so I just think. That was one of the things I've come to realize. When your parents tell you "stop screaming and control your anger", they aren't wanting you to control your anger. We all know that keeping things inside isn't healthy for you. But that's EXACTLY what they tell you to do, which is why so many people are depressed nowadays. And why would they tell you to do something like that? Because they don't want to have to deal with it. Imagine yourself as a parent. Your child is screaming about something and you're really pissed off at him/her. What would you do? Tell them to be quiet and control it. What do kids and people usually do when people tell them to control their anger? They stop talking and keep the anger inside. Parents should tell their kids to talk calmly about their anger, not to control it. You control your pets by scolding them when they yell or bark so you don't have to hear them. Same situation with kids. Even though your dog is barking about maybe not having food in his bowl and he's hungry, you force him to keep those feelings inside without even trying to find out what he wants by scolding him. Exact same with how parents do it to their kids. I have never heard my parents tell me "calm down and tell me whats going on". It was (now I'm a really quiet and paranoid kid because of it) always "be quiet" or "go to your room". Never wanted to find out what's wrong. Just wanted me to shut the fuck up. They didn't ever tell me to shut the fuck up (not even shut up), but thats what they wanted me to do. I've put a lot of serious thought into this. You parents and to-be parents should, too.