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It just does not make sense

#1
Yesterday was a pretty decent day. Did errands, spent time with my daughter, ate healthy, went to church, etc. and did not feel the need to visit this site (no offense...you are all great). Today, could barely get out of bed, am having real trouble starting my day, etc. What the hell? If this is the way life will always be, I am not sure I am all that interested. Would love some consistency here....like the old days...pre trauma. Thanks for listening...,,.






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Champagne

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#2
Heya, I think that is the way days go when you are still going through trauma, I'm afraid *hug

Every day will not be great, some days will be great, others not so good , I suggest that today, you should sit down in a quiet room and write down all the things you are grateful for, what IS going good in your day, what you can plan today to make tomorrow a better day and most importantly why you should stay living especially for your family that I know you love and adore very much. You are a wonderful person, don't ever doubt that *hug

Recovering from trauma is hard, as you know, I know that personally but it is not impossible even though it may feel like that at times. Keep seeing your practitioners and taking their suggestions on board and try being the best version of you that you can possibly be. You can do this, I believe in you and won't ever stop.

Hugs & well wishes. ❤
 

A_J_R

Well-Known Member
#3
This happened to me last week. I felt pretty decent, but then Friday was a mess. I cried and cried all day. Couldn't stop. Hope things get to a more balanced place for you soon.

And I agree, dealing with a trauma will make things a little unpredictable. Just be kind to yourself.
 
#4
Heya, I think that is the way days go when you are still going through trauma, I'm afraid *hug

Every day will not be great, some days will be great, others not so good , I suggest that today, you should sit down in a quiet room and write down all the things you are grateful for, what IS going good in your day, what you can plan today to make tomorrow a better day and most importantly why you should stay living especially for your family that I know you love and adore very much. You are a wonderful person, don't ever doubt that *hug

Recovering from trauma is hard, as you know, I know that personally but it is not impossible even though it may feel like that at times. Keep seeing your practitioners and taking their suggestions on board and try being the best version of you that you can possibly be. You can do this, I believe in you and won't ever stop.

Hugs & well wishes. ❤
Thanks. You are very kind but in addition to trauma I suffer from self hate as I have hurt others also. I have such a long road to healing. Not sure I will make it but I keep trying. Cannot imagine the rest of my life being like this. ....😥
 

Holding my breath

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#5
Thanks. You are very kind but in addition to trauma I suffer from self hate as I have hurt others also. I have such a long road to healing. Not sure I will make it but I keep trying. Cannot imagine the rest of my life being like this. ....😥
*console Hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Keep working on having more of the better days, perhaps colour in a calendar with colour coded key. Green for good day, Amber for ok and red for bad. That way you can track and hopefully start to see an improvement or perhaps a pattern. Xx
 
#6
*console Hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Keep working on having more of the better days, perhaps colour in a calendar with colour coded key. Green for good day, Amber for ok and red for bad. That way you can track and hopefully start to see an improvement or perhaps a pattern. Xx
Thanks. how are you? I am can relate to your feelings....I am getting tired of pretending. I have messed up my life and the only thing holding me here is my family. Wish I could help you but I cannot even help myself.
 

Anonymous ID

Well-Known Member
#8
Trust me, us bipolars know exactly what your talking about. I don't really wanna live like this either but I live for the people I care about
 

lifetalkz

Well-Known Member
#9
Everyone hurts people in life but not everyone feels guilt and shame about it. The guilt and shame comes from early upbringing, they are feelings we are taught to have most likely by people who hurt us. Unfortunately hurting and disappointing other people is inevitable and unavoidable in life. Even if we try very hard to always do what people want us to do and never hurt anyone ever-we still will because we're not psychic. We can never really know what anyone else wants or thinks. The only way out of the paradox is to be true to ourselves and always try to be kind, while still understanding that at times we will hurt or disappointment someone but it's OK. Best wishes-LT
 

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