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ive kind of got a question but i dunno how to put this.ANd im kind of scared that my having this question or being in the situaiton to have this question makes me bad in the first place.
If you were really close to someone and they knew most of your story and what you had been through though perhaps they didnt know in detail quite how bad things may have become recently [though may or may not have their own ideas on that] and you had done something which may [i say may and it is only a may and i dont want to sound dramatic but it is certainly a possibility] sseriously harm or kill you soon but you knew that them knowing this and the detail of whats going on may really distress them and you also know that there is probably very very little they could for you in any way even if they did know more detail and more of what youd done would you tell them or not?Would you think it best to try and save this person more distress and keep it from them for that purpose to try and protect them from going through more than they have to which is kind of the conclusion im coming to at the mmomeent or would you tell them cos you think that if you ever arent here cos of it or get into a serious state then they may be forever wondering why you didnt turn to them and be hurt forever that you didnt.
i know having both of those scenarios makes me a bad person in the first place and being in the situation to even come up with that/those questions in the first place must mean im bad.i know that bit.But what would you do - try and save this person unnecessary extra distress by leaving it especially if you knwo there is little they could do for you anyway so youd only be upsetting them?Or would you think it best to tell them cos you at least owe them that and dont want them to think that you couldnt turn to them?What would you want someone to do if this dilema was the other way around and one of your friends was in this sitaution instead and had to decide about what to tell you?What would you want them to do?What do you think is best?
Sorry this is a stupid post.Just ignore me.And i must be such a bad person to even be writing posts like this.i cause chaos and people distress wherever i go.And i feel i would with this dilema too whatever the outcome.im sorry.Ignore this.
If you were really close to someone and they knew most of your story and what you had been through though perhaps they didnt know in detail quite how bad things may have become recently [though may or may not have their own ideas on that] and you had done something which may [i say may and it is only a may and i dont want to sound dramatic but it is certainly a possibility] sseriously harm or kill you soon but you knew that them knowing this and the detail of whats going on may really distress them and you also know that there is probably very very little they could for you in any way even if they did know more detail and more of what youd done would you tell them or not?Would you think it best to try and save this person more distress and keep it from them for that purpose to try and protect them from going through more than they have to which is kind of the conclusion im coming to at the mmomeent or would you tell them cos you think that if you ever arent here cos of it or get into a serious state then they may be forever wondering why you didnt turn to them and be hurt forever that you didnt.
i know having both of those scenarios makes me a bad person in the first place and being in the situation to even come up with that/those questions in the first place must mean im bad.i know that bit.But what would you do - try and save this person unnecessary extra distress by leaving it especially if you knwo there is little they could do for you anyway so youd only be upsetting them?Or would you think it best to tell them cos you at least owe them that and dont want them to think that you couldnt turn to them?What would you want someone to do if this dilema was the other way around and one of your friends was in this sitaution instead and had to decide about what to tell you?What would you want them to do?What do you think is best?
Sorry this is a stupid post.Just ignore me.And i must be such a bad person to even be writing posts like this.i cause chaos and people distress wherever i go.And i feel i would with this dilema too whatever the outcome.im sorry.Ignore this.