I must be, the single most jelous person in the entire world. After letting it destroy one of my larger relationships i made a vow to myself when i got together with my Charlie not to make the same mistake twice. It was easy to begin with, the little things like a boy mate phoning her up instead of getting all worried and asking what she was talking about i just chilled out and went with it. I carried on like that, and its been nearly half a year now and recently ive been swept away be these jelous feelings. Acting off with her, and not being the Ben she loves. Its not fair on her to have to worry about what she is saying and who she is talking to for my sake. So once again i stepped back... and chilled zee fuck out. That worked for another time, then last night at a new years party we were together fucking around - drinking - having a good time, the next thing i know ive woken up at home and i go to the house where the party is hosted and there she is... She hugs me and she its cool... The thing she tells me is that a friend of mine was trying it on with her most of the night when i was elsewhere... So then completely enraged that she left it until he had left to tell me, i had to deal with it... She said no ofc and sent him packing... But him having his hands on her is enough to enrage me. Later she tells me that it wasnt just during the drunk infused night he did it he also did it in the morning. Which leaves the guy with no excuse. Now, i either take this to the guys face and demolish him, take it to his face and talk about it, or i take it out on charlie... Now i know which one i want to do. But im going to talk it over with the fuck head. Main point is i find it really REALLY hard to deal with jelously, and i cannot stand to let anyone see that there are flaws in the relationship partly through fears that someone could use them to end us. Loads and loads of depressed hours and frustration are miss-placed in this topic. I know damn well that Charlie isnt the kind of girl that is going to cheat, and i know she loves me immencly but i still am vindictive to her through jelously... How do i deal with this guys? I dont think i can go on being a fool... Its a bit late to post this, because im over the majority of problems and ive kinda developed a sheild to this kinda thing, but i can see it getting the better of me again. So lets hear it! How do i deal with this shit?