Don't judge what you don't understand, I've been there and done that. This world needs less judgment and more understanding... I'll be the first to admit I was sort of a jerk when I was an adolescent, I was ignorant to other people and how my actions effected them somewhat insensitive. I didn't have the capacity to put myself in others shoes therefore I was callous at times. As one gets older they and experiences more things they can the ability to empathize better, this is in part from ToM(theory of mind) Even two year ago after I'd been harmed a lot I became somewhat of a non caring jerk when that isn't who I really am. To me this was situational in the sense we are all remade as we go through life as we interact with others. Like the one quote goes "for every asshole out there, there's a girl who made him that way"... If one feels they've been cheated or not treated properly when they were genuinely nice, treated someone properly and had very pure intentions, one is more prone to being a jerk themselves. This isn't right if someone is a nice, compassionate, gentle person they should be regardless. That's not to say we don't respond to the world around us because we do... If you get harmed, and harmed, and treated cruelly over and over it takes a very strong person not to get bitter and become at least a bit of a jerk themselves, for the short term anyways. We all react and are effected by the world around us. A family member was telling me about a Jewish man held in the concentration camps he actually felt sorry and compassion for his captor(s). Sending love to someone who must have a lot of hate and harshness in them takes a special kind of person. Many people hate or fear what they don't understand which isn't the right way to go about things... They say when you judge someone you don't define them you define yourself... I wholeheartedly agree with this one can never get insight into another's life, every experience they've had, their thought process, their pain therefore you're looking at one's life from a very narrow view. You basically define yourself as ignorant. For example when Jesus died he said "forgive them for they know not what they do"... They were ignorant to who he really was, they were controlled by their minds(egos) unconsciously driven. Another example is people who have been discriminated against they can recall this from their innate emotional intelligence and are much more likely to empathize with others who have been as well... People who have never had to deal with being discriminated against are much less likely to empathize with someone who is. In that way if you haven't dealt with discrimination you're much more prone to being insensitive to others and discriminating against others.