Just coasting

[Forgotten_Man]

It has been a while since I was here last. I guess I have just been keeping myself blissfully occupied. Which is just fine and probably a good thing. I find that distraction keeps my mind from snapping. In fact it reinforces the wall that I use to hold off my emotions... or more my desires to kill myself.

These days I just sort of coast through life. Not really happy.. mostly just a neutral state. I keep my mind busy a lot so I do not feel down. Well that is until I get bored or something like that. Then my mind wanders off. I have been told I think about things too much.. I guess that happens too.


So how much longer do I have to coast through life? When will I run into a rock and stop coasting?

 

[pisces-music-girl]

I could have written that. I have been gone a while, managing to supress my suicidal feelings, and been coasting- but lately I've been feeling like I'm headed for a crash.

Hopefully you won't run into a rock and get upened, but you'll find a rock to hold on to. :smile:

 

[Forgotten_Man]

I could have written that. I have been gone a while, managing to supress my suicidal feelings, and been coasting- but lately I've been feeling like I'm headed for a crash.

Hopefully you won't run into a rock and get upened, but you'll find a rock to hold on to. :smile:

That does not happen for men like me. We coast till we crash.

 

[pisces-music-girl]

Really? Why do you feel that way?

Well actually I understand... if I wasn't feeling stable right now I could completely agree with your statment... except I am a girl.

I'm here for a PM, should you need me. My insomnia's back, so I should be around for a while.

 

[Forgotten_Man]

Really? Why do you feel that way?

Well actually I understand... if I wasn't feeling stable right now I could completely agree with your statment... except I am a girl.

I'm here for a PM, should you need me. My insomnia's back, so I should be around for a while.

Sane quiet men are always hated.

 

[SoulRiser]

Sane quiet men are always hated.

But I like sane quiet people. Well, that depends on your definition of "sane". I tend to prefer weird people, but I call them sane, because as far as I'm concerned, "normal" people are the true insane ones

Distracting yourself is fine and all, but it won't solve the problems. But then if facing them makes you snap... hmm. It's the only way to solve it though. I think. Coasting just guarantees more coasting. Facing it at least gives a chance for it to improve. But then I have no idea what's going on in your life, so who am I to talk :P

 

[Forgotten_Man]

But I like sane quiet people. Well, that depends on your definition of "sane". I tend to prefer weird people, but I call them sane, because as far as I'm concerned, "normal" people are the true insane ones

Distracting yourself is fine and all, but it won't solve the problems. But then if facing them makes you snap... hmm. It's the only way to solve it though. I think. Coasting just guarantees more coasting. Facing it at least gives a chance for it to improve. But then I have no idea what's going on in your life, so who am I to talk :P

I am no where near normal. Normal = insane.

But with confrontation comes the greater chance of deprovement as well.

 

[lemonyjuice]

I don't know if this will help you, but I've decided for myself that rather than trying to fix everything about my life and thinking up drastic changes to make so that I am no longer coasting... just find a way to be satisfied with my life. I can't see anything particularly wrong with it. There are lots of people living just like me who are happy. I just need to learn to be happy and satisfied with who I am.

But... yeah. I don't know if that helps you, but I do understand how you feel.

 

[Forgotten_Man]

More I am tired of coasting and just want to hit a rock and sink.

 

[lemonyjuice]

I think the difference between me and "normal" people is that they all seem content to do mediocre things and carry out mediocre lives. Take the common, 9-5 working person. They spend most of their time at their jobs and then when they're not working, they just do... stuff. What's so great about stuff? Or take me for example. I'm a stay-at-home mom and I know lots of moms who are perfectly happy sitting around with little kids, changing diapers, doing dishes... it's just another job and in their spare time they just do more "stuff". They watch TV, buy weird stuff like expensive scented candles (had to include that because I was invited to a "candle party" recently) and I don't know how any of it fulfills them. It's all just STUFF.

But then I have to ask myself... what else do I expect? What is there other than just plain ole stuff? Who knows.

 

[urban_lily]

totally get you lemony (although, I dont have kids but I am stuck at home...loooong story)....I feel like there should be something more meaningful that I should be doing...but I dont know what it is!

 

[xighsequite]

^ adopt a less privileged child from another country; they're really neat, and far more appreciative of what we have. It makes me happy to give people the things I don't appreciate.


Also, I'm pretty certain people do that "stuff" to distract themselves from their lives. Most people aren't really content with what they do, the way they live, so they find distractions - whether or not they're meaningful distractions usually isn't important.

 

[Forgotten_Man]

^ adopt a less privileged child from another country; they're really neat, and far more appreciative of what we have. It makes me happy to give people the things I don't appreciate.


Also, I'm pretty certain people do that "stuff" to distract themselves from their lives. Most people aren't really content with what they do, the way they live, so they find distractions - whether or not they're meaningful distractions usually isn't important.

So those who find distractions are not content?

 

[Forgotten_Man]

I think the difference between me and "normal" people is that they all seem content to do mediocre things and carry out mediocre lives. Take the common, 9-5 working person. They spend most of their time at their jobs and then when they're not working, they just do... stuff. What's so great about stuff? Or take me for example. I'm a stay-at-home mom and I know lots of moms who are perfectly happy sitting around with little kids, changing diapers, doing dishes... it's just another job and in their spare time they just do more "stuff". They watch TV, buy weird stuff like expensive scented candles (had to include that because I was invited to a "candle party" recently) and I don't know how any of it fulfills them. It's all just STUFF.

But then I have to ask myself... what else do I expect? What is there other than just plain ole stuff? Who knows.

I guess in the end everything becomes plain old stuff

 

[urban_lily]

I so cant adopt a child.....there are so many reasons...the main one being that I do not have the means to support a child and so it would be unfair to both the child and myself to take on that responsibility if I cannot provide it the best possible life....also, I'm ill and can barely look after myself and....I just dont feel ready for children, I'm too young! Besides, I'm oviously on this forum for a reason....I have mental issues going on so it would be totally inappropriate for me to bring a child into this environment when I dont know how I'm going to be from one day to the next....I also dont think that feeling like you are 'coasting' and you want more meaning from your life is a good reason to adopt a child.

I want to feel like I've acheived something in my life....I never feel that what I have done is enough....and I feel like each day is wasted and I could have done so much more....I try my best but I'm so hard on myself that, to me, it never feels good enough...

 

[RySp123]

So those who find distractions are not content?

I'd say that they are contented. Some feel satisfied and in that are content. Others are content doing what might be useless or non meaningful to another but at the end is not what 'you' feel would make you content or satisfied that count but that what THEY do satisfied them..... and that what YOU do for 'yourself' does satisfied you and make you 'content'.

there is an old saying..... man has enough business on his hands not to bother with business of others ........ not literaly as written but the meaning is the same...... poor memory amen.

granny

 

[xighsequite]

Urban - but nothing is expected from you - I mean, nothng is intrinsically expected from humans. Everythng you do here is a privilege of existence. This is your life, they're your experiences, and your mind and perceptions are you.

I wasn't entirely serious about adopting a child, but I do know a lot of people who've found happiness by having a correspondance with people from other countries. Pin pal stuff. To hear someone speak to you with a totally different life perspective is interesting, whoever you are. And although distractions are used to take our awareness off of problems, they're not necessarily bad. Even if they were, there's no one alive past the age of three who doesn't use them.

There's no need to deny that humans have done bad things; we should be accepting our actions instead of denying them and pretending they didn't happen and aren't happening.


You can adopt a child who is hardly younger than you - though I don't know how old you are, I'd say 25 is a safe age to consider doing it.

And don't think you shouldn't do it because you have mental problems. Compared to children in the underdeveloped, unadvanced countries, your problems would make them giggle. They're not strangers to pain; the difference is they've been taught to cope with it, while we have been coddled and protected, thus making us unable to deal with real responsibility.

Again, your expectations for yourself are so high... that's silly. People aren't supposed to have expectations - you should have goals. Goals are achievable, expectations are hypothetic at best.

How about live long enough to save someone else's life? That's the least you can do, if you can't appreciate your own life.

I'm not being mean when I say that, either. That is actually how I feel, and I hate that I don't appreciate my life or my bearable circumstances. So, that's what I'm doing.

I apologize if you sensed any hostility - I don't possess the means for anger. I just want you to feel better.

 

[SoulRiser]

I don't think people should go around adopting kids unless that's what they really want to do, and they've thought about it for a long time beforehand.

I feel like there should be something more meaningful that I should be doing...but I dont know what it is!

I don't know either, but maybe this will help you narrow it down.

How about live long enough to save someone else's life? That's the least you can do, if you can't appreciate your own life.

That's a really cool idea. I think if everyone in the world tried to do that, the world would be a much better place already.

But with confrontation comes the greater chance of deprovement as well.

Well, look at it this way. There's coasting, which is more of the same. There's facing it, which could go either way: It has a chance to get better, but could also get worse. If you were thinking of giving up, what do you have to lose by taking that chance? Even if it does get worse, you'll at least know that you tried. That should at least make you stronger, if nothing else.

I think the difference between me and "normal" people is that they all seem content to do mediocre things and carry out mediocre lives. Take the common, 9-5 working person. They spend most of their time at their jobs and then when they're not working, they just do... stuff.

Yeah, most people seem to do that. I suppose mediocre is better than bad, but why stop there if you can still do better? Maybe they just don't think that they can do better. I dunno.

But then I have to ask myself... what else do I expect? What is there other than just plain ole stuff? Who knows.

I guess everyone has to find their own "more than just stuff" thing to do in life. Which is probably why so few people do find it, 'cause they're too busy with "stuff"

 

[Forgotten_Man]

Ok enough of this breeder garbage shit. If you want to talk about crotch droppings please do so some where else.

 

[Ripx]

I think the difference between me and "normal" people is that they all seem content to do mediocre things and carry out mediocre lives. Take the common, 9-5 working person. They spend most of their time at their jobs and then when they're not working, they just do... stuff. What's so great about stuff? Or take me for example. I'm a stay-at-home mom and I know lots of moms who are perfectly happy sitting around with little kids, changing diapers, doing dishes... it's just another job and in their spare time they just do more "stuff". They watch TV, buy weird stuff like expensive scented candles (had to include that because I was invited to a "candle party" recently) and I don't know how any of it fulfills them. It's all just STUFF.

But then I have to ask myself... what else do I expect? What is there other than just plain ole stuff? Who knows.

start a business, like me. think of it as a game.