First, I hope this is the right section to post this.
Ok, so I've be seeing some discussions on living without ever being in love, never having a girlfriend and some on still being a virgin and I just thought I'd bring up another aspect of relationships. That's the just friends relationship that involves being trapped in the "friends zone"
For those who don't know what the friends zone is, I'll give a brief description. The friends zone is when a girl sees a guy as a close friend and she will never see him as anything other than this. He is now in the situation where he either stays as a good friend or if he can't just stay friends, he ends up leaving and is never really in contact with the girl again.
I think this is the situation that a lot of "good guys" find themselves in far too often. I know that this is the main problem with me and in many cases, it can worse than never even talking to girls.
I have been trapped in the friends zone ever since I started to be interested in girls and I am now almost 23. I am naturally shy but when I do talk to people and especially girls, I can be quite confident and well spoken. I've been told I'm funny and sweet and a really great guy. But unfortunately I am only ever seen as a really good friend. The guy that they can talk to about whatever they are having troubles with. In most cases I start friendships with no plan on trying for anything more, but as I get to know certain girls I become interested in them. But they don't see me as anything more than a friend.
As bad as it is to never interact with a girl cause you're shy or nervous, it is far worse to have a relationship that is as close to an actual girlfriend as you can get and still feel like a loser that no one wants. You know everything there is about this girl but you never get that connection that only comes with being in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. And to be told that "any girl would be lucky to have you" or that "I wish the guys I dated were more like you" but still never get the chance to date, literally makes my heart feel like it is tearing apart.
I just wanted to see what others think of this
Ok, so I've be seeing some discussions on living without ever being in love, never having a girlfriend and some on still being a virgin and I just thought I'd bring up another aspect of relationships. That's the just friends relationship that involves being trapped in the "friends zone"
For those who don't know what the friends zone is, I'll give a brief description. The friends zone is when a girl sees a guy as a close friend and she will never see him as anything other than this. He is now in the situation where he either stays as a good friend or if he can't just stay friends, he ends up leaving and is never really in contact with the girl again.
I think this is the situation that a lot of "good guys" find themselves in far too often. I know that this is the main problem with me and in many cases, it can worse than never even talking to girls.
I have been trapped in the friends zone ever since I started to be interested in girls and I am now almost 23. I am naturally shy but when I do talk to people and especially girls, I can be quite confident and well spoken. I've been told I'm funny and sweet and a really great guy. But unfortunately I am only ever seen as a really good friend. The guy that they can talk to about whatever they are having troubles with. In most cases I start friendships with no plan on trying for anything more, but as I get to know certain girls I become interested in them. But they don't see me as anything more than a friend.
As bad as it is to never interact with a girl cause you're shy or nervous, it is far worse to have a relationship that is as close to an actual girlfriend as you can get and still feel like a loser that no one wants. You know everything there is about this girl but you never get that connection that only comes with being in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. And to be told that "any girl would be lucky to have you" or that "I wish the guys I dated were more like you" but still never get the chance to date, literally makes my heart feel like it is tearing apart.
I just wanted to see what others think of this