6 months ago I asked my boyfriend of 9 years to move out. He did not help pay for anything although he did try to help around the house. The resentment grew and I asked him to leave with the stipulation that he clean up his act and come back to me. Now he is seeing someone else and tells me he can't come back, but needs me in his life. The pain this as caused me is intolerable. I just want it to stop and can't see a way out of this. He wants me in his life but under his terms…..I have never been in such a dark place.